When visiting social media web sites how do I maintain my anonymity?

I might discuss AA or sobriety, but I never reveal I'm a member.
34% (57 votes)
I use separate accounts so that I can maintain anonymity while talking about AA recovery.
24% (40 votes)
I don't care if I break my anonymity.
42% (69 votes)
Total votes: 166

Anonymity on social media is important.."we fiercely guard it"!

My anonymity is critical to my work. I have in my 21 years sober, been written out of a large will, lost clients, and lost jobs all due to other well meaning people breaking my anonymity because "its not a big deal for them". The big book is pretty clear on this "We Feircely guard our anonymity and that of our members"...

With that said, I live in a fairly remote state and access in important. I have a facebook page and I have settings so that others friends cant read my friends posts.. I also started a sober page for friends of bill that is secret..post show up on my page to me only, anyone looking at my page will not see them and the same is true for all members...Its a page not a group or meeting but it is a place to share the message of recovery it doesnt replace face to face but it surely supplements it.

I have had some negitive responses a couple times from memebers from the midwest..not sure what there concerns are. I would love to hear...its working for us so far.

how to set up page

Many of us at Intergroup and District level are struggling with finding/developing the correct model for this.

It sounds like a "page", with an admin panel, rather than a personal whatever it is called.

Please share your settings, etc. with us.

You could leave your comments anonymously at http://grantspassaa.com/3.html

Thank you,

Bill R


I don't have a facebook page, but when considering creating one I thought about how I would keep my anonymity. It does present a challenge, since I am not sure if all my AA contacts would respect my anonymity. There are many people in my professional life and my church life that do not know I am sober and active in AA. I do not keep it a secret, but I do not broadcast it either.


The three poll answer choices do not provide a good choice at all. This solution/message of ours is meant to be carried face to face. I do not feel it in my best interest spiritually or in AA's best interest at all if I billboard my membership on the web.

11th and 12th Traditions

I sure hope you realize your missing a fouth choice!!??

OPEN social media web sites.

Hello All. I choose not to release any personal information. Personal security is of paramount importance to me. Thanks for reading my thoughts

social media in this case & poll choices generally

This isn't the first time the 3 choices provided on the Grapevine website don't seem to cover all the bases. The 3 in this instance all add up to it being okay, one way or another, to discuss recovery on facebook or similar sites.

I DO have a facebook page, & I think facebook is great - & my experience is that lots of AA members post (or respond to posts) in a way that breaks anonymity - their own & that of others - at the public level, ie at the level of press, radio, film & other public media.

Sometimes this seems just to be the unintended result of a lack of awareness that eg posting to a wall, & comments on/responses to such posts (status, photos etc), are likely seen by at least all 'friends' of the person whose page is being posted on. In my case, that includes colleagues & former colleagues, both of my own & of my husband, childhood friends & co-workers of my now-grown son & friends & family of his girlfriend, & I do assume other people's circles are similarly inclusive of those not members of our fellowship.

In other cases, it may be a lack of thought/forethought grounded in the very nature of sites such as fb, their immediacy (as well as our own somtimes impulsive &/or undisciplined characters)- easily understood, however aka a failure to consider the consequences, to play the tape to the end, thoughtlessness. Hmm.)

& In still others, it seems to be grounded in a view that members with more concern for either/both our traditions, their own anonymity, or the reality that semi-disguised AA 'talk' (following the letter rather than the spirit of the tradition) can effectively break the anonymity of others, isn't a position worth respecting.

I'd have liked to see a poll option for those of us who never discuss recovery or use program language on facebook.

More generally, I'd appreciate Grapevine pausing to check if all possible viewpoints are represented in the poll response options; not doing this can give the impression that there's substantial unanimity within today's fellowship on a matter, when it's likely there were simply members like me out there who couldn't check any of the available boxes!

Thanks for giving my position some consideration.


I do not care about anonymity as I sure did not care about it when drinking. I always use my full name and I do not hesitate to tell people I was a drunk and what I have done to get and stay sober. I use sobertoday35 and sobertoad35 as sign in name. If it helps one person it was worth it. Just my thoughts

Steve V.
Oxford Pa

I'm With Ya On This One

I just wanted to say that I also share openly that I am an alcoholic. As you said, if it helps just ONE person, it is worth it. I have been single for a while and for networking I have signed up with a couple of singles sites. I use SoberGirl as my screen name so I am putting it right out there from the get go.

Southern MD

I don't neen to worry either

I do not use any Social media sites that are not a direct connect with AA for any AA related business.

Social media

I don't share about AA, but may share about sobriety.

None of the above

I don't discuss AA on any of my personal websites.

I don't need to worry...

...because I don't have a facebook acct!
Jon W

I don't need to worry either

I also do not have a Facebook account or use any other social networking sites. They are far too much an invasion of privacy. I find sites like this to be gossip columns similar to the gossip newspapers such as The Enquirer. Who need that. And it seems that these days employers and others in authority look at these sites. No one needs to know my private life other than a few good friends. I like my private life kept private. It's just as easy to send emails to select friends with photos and the like. Besides, I have better things to do with my time than waste life on these sites. I lost many years of my younger life drinking. Now I need to catch up on the REAL things in life, because I'm not getting any younger.

On other online forums which I do participate, I do not mention AA, unless the forum is an AA forum. If the topic of drinking comes up in a non-AA forum, I simply say "I do not drink".

Anonymity on social media websites

I share in a way that most people would not realize that I am a member of AA.


I was surprised to find that a friend of Bill and a friend of mine, shared this on his facebook and therefore on my newsfeed...I don't generally make a big deal out of the AA side of my life to those outside the circle, so I just hid the article. This is one of those areas where I'm feeling that there needs to have some 'restraint of pen and paper' for the overall good of Alcoholics Anonymous or as someone else suggested, a secret group of AA related articles.


I would not want to be so anonymous that I am not available to help someone.

Invisible We

I believe the A.A. program isn't about "YOU"...and that if WE are effectively working our program ,WE remove ourselves-WE are anonymous as far as being singled out,but are valuabe in what WE SAY and DO ,verbal ,written and in our daily activities.

anonymity on social media websites

set up access so not everyone can get in; use 'friend' and/or 'friend of friend' filters-also use a secure connection where available. wrg