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August 2011: Unforgiven

Sweeping aside fear and resentments are vital in Step Eight

"I explained briefly about my addiction and the recovery process in the Steps, apologizing for my actions during the years he was married to my mother."

Any alcoholic working the program can tell you that resentments and guilt can lead us right back to the drink. Learning to give ourselves over to God and clear away the wreckage from our past is the solution. The problem, we learn, is not alcohol; it is us.

Over the years, I have completed a number of Fourth Step inventories and each time one name appeared repeatedly, causing flare-ups of anger and resentment, propelling me back to a time when I felt insecure and alone.

Then I noticed a recurring pattern at the speaker meetings I was attending. Each AA member’s story seemed... Login to read more
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