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Published May 2014.

Family Myths

He grew up with a lot of very specific expectations. They kept him drinking until he let them go

Over the last few weeks, we've talked a lot about fear and faith. I wanted to share my faith with you. But first, because I feel faith to be the inverse of fear, I feel obligated to tell you a little about a fear that shaped much of my life – the fear that I am inadequate or "less than."

My parents emigrated from the Philippines in the late 1950s. My dad had just finished medical school and was to do his residency in the States. My mom followed him, and they wed in 1960. I was the eldest of five kids. Our family has been in Minneapolis since 1962. We weren't taught our parents' native language because they wanted our English to be flawless.

-- Edwin B.

Minneapolis, Minnesota

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