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From the August 2014 magazine.

Getting to the Root

Not smart enough, not thin enough, not good enough. The Steps helped her dig up the truth

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had a not-good-enough button. I’m sure it started in childhood when my father, in order to create the best daughter possible, told me repeatedly that I wasn’t good enough, to try harder.

In high school I felt I wasn’t as good as my girlfriends. But when I drank, I could be pretty, smart and sexy. When a boyfriend left me, the only reason I could come up with was that I wasn’t thin or sexy enough. When I was pregnant, my mother wondered out loud if I would be a good mom. She wasn’t sure I would be, but I can’t remember why. When my husband hit me and cheated on me, it was because I wasn’t good enough. He even told me that the other woman was so much better than me in bed, and if I only learned to be better at sex, he might stay.

-- Katie G.

Burnsville, Minnesota

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