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Published June 2014.

"Forgive me, Pats!"

The death of his wife made him look back on the amends he had made in the past

"Go back to the woods where you came from." That's what my wife said to me before she filed for divorce in 1974. She was right. And I did. Six months later, I found sobriety in remote Minnesota. I've been sober ever since, well over 38 years, thanks to AA.

My plan of course was to get sober and return to the family, but my plan never happened. The family survived and grew into good health—in spite of me and my absence. I maintained close contact with my wife and children, though we did not live under the same roof. Over the ensuing years, my children grew up, got married and had children of their own.

-- Boyd R.

Aurora, Minnesota

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