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Giving It a Go

Nothing else had worked so he tried AA

A number of years ago, I passed a personal milestone in my sobriety that gave me a lot of pause for thought. At that time, I'd been sober longer than I had drank. This morning I realized that I'm rapidly coming up on another personal milestone. Very soon, I will have been sober for half of my life.

The reason I describe them as personal milestones go back to my beginning in sobriety. I was an emotional cripple that had absolutely no mechanisms for dealing with life other than by using alcohol to suppress my insecurities and fears. I knew that I was a broken human being and was desperately trying to ensure that no one would ever find out! I ended up in a treatment center courtesy of the Canadian Navy and a moment of personal clarity. It became apparent to all in very short order that I was a problem case and that I needed far more assistance than they could offer. When I left there, after narrowly avoiding being thrown out, they told me I may as well drink again because I didn't have a hope of staying sober anyway. I resented this enormously at the time.

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