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From the April 2017 magazine.

Free to fly

During a tough time, a husband takes action and finds new ways to take the next right step

When I’d been sober about five years, my wife of 50 years was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. After the third time I had to call the police to find my wife when she wandered off, her doctor suggested that I needed to start attending a support group. I had begun to feel frantic, worried that my decades of alcoholic behavior were somehow to blame for my wife’s condition. I feared I would never be able to make amends. Members of my support group, seeing my despair, said I should seek psychiatric help.

One of my sponsees was a medical doctor. I asked him to recommend a suitable shrink. He sent me to a woman a little younger than me. At our first meeting she said, “First of all, you need to stop accepting blame and responsibility for something you didn’t cause, can’t fix and have no control over.” I laughed out loud and said, “I’m a recovering alcoholic and I’m paying you money to tell me that?”

-- Bob M.

Tulsa, Oklahoma, USA

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