September 2013: The Shame Knot
I love the amends Step. I especially like the words “such people” in the Ninth Step. As a non-custodial mother to three of my four sons and an often absentee mother to the other one, I caused irreparable damage during my drinking years.
After sobering up in AA, I did what I could to make amends to my children. Most of my efforts were met with indifference, pity or aloofness.
So I still felt the knot of shame from time to time, until a friend pointed out that if I had remained at home during my drinking I might have done far more damage than I did by leaving. My last few...
-- June B.