From the June 2019 magazine.

Growing up

Another Fourth Step helps a dad let go of a long-time resentment toward his son

I finished my Fourth Step a month ago. Not for the first time. In my 15 years of sobriety, I have done Step Four formally with a sponsor at least five times, maybe more. I’ve lost count. 

My sponsor nowadays is a Big-Book-thumping alcoholic. So the final product of my Fourth Step looks exactly like the example in the Big Book—resentments, fears, sex—nothing else. There are two main differences. I’m 82 years old so there’s nothing about sex, alas! And at the top of each page, I now write a brief prayer: “God, reveal to me the truth.”

-- Bob M.

Tulsa, Oklahoma

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