Heard At Meetings

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PaulP113
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Keep the faith.......

Please keep the faith. I get a little angry about that too at times. The one I love (and I've said it myself) is...."This is a Catholic disease cured in the basements of protestant churches." But the truth is this is an EQUAL OPPORTUNITY disease. And faith is a journey. I'm a "revert" and after God saw fit to send my best friend home from Viet Nam in a casket I told God to shove it! 17 years went by before I reconciled. We're all on a path. What I say (away from tables usually)is, "Preach the Gospel everywhere you go....and only has a very, very last resort.....use words!" Kapish??? ~~ Paul P

Anonymous
anti-catholic!

I often hear, "I WAS FULL OF CATHOLIC GUILT!!!"Never heard, "I am full of Protestant guilt, or Jewish guilt, or Buddhist guilt or Muslim guilt or agnostic guilt or any other kind of guilt!!!
I'm Irish and I heard that "AA is a spanner that fits every nut that walks into the room!!!
Our preamble states that "we are not allied with any sect,denomination,etc.". We don't mention these things at all during the meeting. We talk about "what it was like, what happened and what we are now." Please go back to AA meetings Mary, you have 29 years of membership behind you.
And here is another useful Irish statement, "Listen to Thunder and Avoid lightening!!!"
Any Alcoholic who works the first 9 steps, will experience the 12 promises, that is the light,in my opinion, that is worth SEEING!!! God bless.

Anonymous
Irish Parable

I love that saying:
"Listen to Thunder,
and avoid Lightning!"

That to me is the embodiment of AA and NA...

I told my brother to come to a meeting. My brother is not an alcoholic or drug addict, but if there is one thing I believe, we at AA meetings have at our disposal a fellowship that many search for in churches but don't find. I am not saying we should neglect church, but if you can't find a congregation that understands your problems or your god as you understand him, at least AA gives you an outlet from which you can express and receive a necessary social bond with others who also struggle in this life.

Many of us become servants to these substances because of a loss of management of the many issues that overtake us in life. Whether at a young age or an old age, stresses in life often find a way to drive us into self-defeating, even suicidal behaviors. We search for relief in any number of places, but the answer is never any one place or as simple as just one suggestion. Yes Church helps, but there are many alcoholics hiding in those pews! The military has helped many a man and woman achieve control of a life of turmoil, but many also have lost their grip in that very same institution.

I say all this to come back to the original quote; we in AA and NA may not have ALL the answers to life, but neither do any other place where answers may be found, but what we do have in AA and NA is experience with the burns of "lightning". We come to meetings and speak out about our experiences with passion and conviction. Nowhere else is the "Thunder" louder than an AA and NA meeting about the dangers of NOT avoiding the lightning.

We have already been burned, but a Jamaican saying goes such, "Once bitten, twice shy". We have been once, twice, thrice bitten, so we shout out to others to shy away from the mistakes we have made.

Come to AA, come to NA, because it is the best place to "Hear the Thunder and Avoid the Lightning!"

Anonymous
anti-catholic!

Quite a lot of AA meetings occur in buildings belonging to the Catholic Church!

Anonymous
Anti-Catholic

Remember we're in a Church and not at Church!

Anonymous
Anti-catholic bias at meetings

You know this bias stuff going around is what we are taught in the bible. I don't mean to go all religious but remember its darkest before the dawn. There will be a time pretty soon when things will turn around. Remember something great is about to happen. It always does for me, and I pray for those who persecute me or judge me. AA and God has taught me to be loving, kind, and tolerant. I trust in God everyday, and if I don't there is something wrong with me. Of course it hurts to have others laugh at what we believe, only if we alow it. Don't stop going to meetings just because of them. I did this too before and realized that now I go to meetings for me and the still suffering alcoholic. God places these people in our lives to make us stronger, not weaker. Use your program or religion, you know God gave us tools. Pat yourself on the back, and be proud and keep fighting in what you believe in.

God bless,

Anonymous

lunchbunch
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Catholic

Dear Mary,

I sometimes share in meetings the fact that I had a wonderful Catholic upbringing. My mother worked at our Catholic school so the priests & nuns were like family to us. One of the priests, who was also our athletics coach, was my hero. He helped we inner city kids, no matter our background or color, get involved in a variety of sports including speed skating, snow/water skiing and track & field. I stayed in touch with him for years and asked him to speak at my mother's funeral when I was 10 years sober.

I sometimes share that nearly everything in the steps was offered to me through the Catholic Church. The goal of my church & school was to "build character" but instead I became a character. It was not the Church's fault that I ultimately rejected what I was taught. In the long run and through the program of AA, I returned to a way of life that builds character and I am grateful to everyone who tried to shape my character as I grew up.

Though I took my 5th step with a Jesuit priest, I have not returned to the church as an active member. I tried but decided my time and efforts were better spent helping alcoholics in AA. That said, I never shy away from sharing my positive experience with Catholicism. I have been fortunate to not receive negative feedback.

Every religion has its "idiosyncrasies" that may receive a few chuckles during a meeting. I've heard people share about being raised Methodist, Jewish, Muslim, Baptist...and they always manage to get a few laughs about how they were raised. The predominant religion in my area is Mormonism and that religion seems to generate the most chuckles at meetings here. On the other hand, I don't know anyone in my AA group who would fault a member for actively participating in their church of choice to broaden their spiritual life.

I have found that most Mormons out here have developed a wonderful self deprecating sense of humor when it comes to their religion. I have come to admire that ability and have tried to cultivate that trait in myself.

Anonymous
Religion at meetings

What are your choices? You can leave religion out of it. What if there were a newcomer there who got the idea that AA IS religious by people even mentioning it at all?

Alcoholics tend to need something to gripe on or about. It's either gossip, or some warped, negative idea. It's not necessary to even mention what truth you follow, is it? Not everyone needs to know you're an AA, and not everyone will understand your religious choice, either.

Please, don't make it to be more than it is. Or you can find/or develop your own meeting. If you like. Even if someone's "truth" is warped, that doesn't reflect on you, AA or Catholicism, either. Does it? Don't let anyone's comments bother you or hold you back.

Anonymous
Catholic Bashing?

Bashing of any kind is a form of soul sickness. Remember that some are sicker than others. Mary please don't stop going to meetings. You can change your meetings just like in the beginning you changed people places and things. I am 30 years in AA and did stop going for about 10 years. I didn't relapse but my thinking became sick and I was not there to put out my hand to others and help the next person. Please stay, God can resolve this within you and the others. Pray for those who speak hurtful things. Bless you. Liz K, New Jersey

Anonymous
catholic bashing

In the AA Preamble that we ared read at our meeting, we find that, AA IS NOT ALLIED WITH ANY SECT, POLITICS, ORGANIAZATION OR RELIGION.

We do not discuss Any Sect, any Politics, and Organization, and Religion. These topics can be divisive and take our attention from the purpose of AA which is to stay sober and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety. As we say in Ireland YOU CANNOT WHISTLE DANNY BOY AND DRINK TEA AT THE SAME TIME!!!

Anonymous
Sharing.

Being alone in my own head with my own thoughts is like wandering around a dangerous neighbourhood after dark!

Anonymous
12 step call.

A member was 17 years sober. He was helping a young man who was just 17 days sober. The older man said, "Come with me now to make a 12 step to a young man who rang me for help!"

The younger man protested, "But what good can I do? I am only 17 days since my last drink?"

The older man replied, "You are ideal for this call. He will identify more with you than me!"

""Why will he identify more with me than you?"

The older man replied, "I am 17 years since my last drink, you are 17 days since your last drink. SO YOU WERE LAST AT THE SCENE OF THE ACCIDENT!!!"

Anonymous
I would like to thank all the people

I would like to thank all the people who gave me praise and praises me for making it out of the burned down building I burnt down , How can I repay you? – Thank you

Anonymous
I would like to thank all people

A member of AA carried the message to me.

I can repay him by carrying the same message to others.

Anonymous
I would like to thank all people

A member of AA carried the message to me.

I can repay him by carrying the same message to others.

Anonymous
dope taking or drinking.

Are you an "And uh" or just an "uh"?

Anonymous
better than "ya know what I

better than "ya know what I mean"

Anonymous
Heard at meetings over the years.

This is the only program I know where people come in and admit that their lives are unmanageable, but want to tell everyone else how to manage their lives!

Anonymous
I know how you feel.

Here us a parable. Mike got news one morning in the Seminary that his Dad died suddenly during the night. Pat. the senior student visited Mikes' room. "I know exactly how you feel Mike, my dad died during the night seven years ago!" Mike said, "No Pat. You don't know exactly how I feel. Please leave me, I want to be alone."
Pat went to the Dean of the Seminary and told him of his experience with Mike. "I had the same experience as Mike. I know how he feels." The Dean replied, "Listen Pat, Mike was right, you don't EXPERIENCE how he feels. Mike's Dad had not spoken to him for years!" But Pat said, "But I do know how Mike feels I had the same experience as he had!" The Dean replied, "Pat you did not have the SAME experience as Mike, but you had a SIMILAR experience!!!

"You could not have the same experience as Mike, because you are Pat and you are not Mike!!! You do not have Mike's experience of Mike's emotions, but you do have experience of your own emotions! That is why I say that you did not have THE SAME experience, but you did have a SIMILAR ONE!!!

This story taught me a lot! When I heard an AA tell his or her story, I assumed that I knew how he/she felt. Intellectually I understood what they said. But the story teller had the experience, in the totality of his or her being, in their bodies, their minds their spirits, their emotions and in the deepest caverns of their hearts. I do not feel as they feel, only they themselves have access to those deep dimensions of their hearts. I do not have direct personal access to those dimensions of their being. I have SIMILAR experiences to theirs but I do not have the SAME experiences and I need to remind myself again and again about this distinction. This helps me to pay greater attention to his or her story, and learn how they applied the 12 steps in the particular incident they are sharing. Today is the 10th. day in the month of June. It is the 78th. Birthday of A.A. Happy Birthday to ye all.

Anonymous
Fearless?

If you are waiting to be made fearless, ask for patience, lots of patience.
If it is courage you want, the wait is over.

Anonymous
prayer

God get inside my head before I do.If it be thy will.

PorshaJo
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Sponsorship

I heard in a meeting that an individual's sponsor insists she quick taking her meds for severe clinical depression in Step 4. I believe that is ludicrous, it is the only way she can function in society. This individual is two years sober and doing well as a service member and her family life is finally coming together for her. Why would a sponsor insist upon something like this?

Anonymous
Meds

Because the sponsor is an idiot. Not following a doctor's advice is self-medicating - plain and simple.

Page 133 is very clear than we "...good doctor or psychiatrist. Their services are often indispensable in treating a newcomer and in following his case afterward."

Is there something elusive in "afterward" that I and not aware of?

Anonymous
Sponors show me by their EXAMPLE!!!

A sponsor is in my life to show me what he did. He is not there to tell me what to do. I do not discuss my health issues at an AA meeting, neither do I discuss what medicine I have been given by the competent medical authority.

Keep it simple!

When I go to see my doctor, I do not read the AA preamble or Chapter 5 to him or her!

I go to discuss my health to him, and take his guidance and direction, because he trained and qualified to do so.

Anonymous
Sponsorship

Some alcoholics have the delusion that they (personally) can do all things for another, including diagnosing diseases and perscribing medication or telling them not to take it. I am a Type 1 diabetic (being treated by an endocrinologist with insulin) and am being treated by a Psychiatrist for clinical depression (with an SSRI type antidepressant). I have had several "nutcases" tell me that I didn't need either of those medications! I thanked them for sharing their opinion, asked them where they got their Medical Licence, then suggested that they should call my MDs and tell The Doctors, not me, what they thought. I then told them that MY SPONSER had told me that the big book specifically states that there are good Doctors out there and we should be honest with them and follow their instructions. If I break my leg, I'd first want someone to take me to the hospital, not a meeting.

wbsearch
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Sponsorship

We are not doctors

Anonymous
We are not doctors!

Some of us are!

Anonymous
Sponsorship:

Sponsor is a

S--ober

P--erson

O--ffering

N--ewcomer

S--uggestions

O--n

R--ecovery

Anonymous
Sponsorship:

Sponsor is a

S--ober

P--erson

O--ffering

N--ewcomer

S-uggestions

O--n

R--ecovery

PaulP113
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Star Trek???

" Dang it Jim, I'm only an alcoholic!" ~~ Dr. McCoy

JamesX
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We are not doctors. We don't

We are not doctors. We don't give advise. We share our.ourexperience. if you don't have experience it's good to listen and send then to a power greater than you the doctor.

Anonymous
Sponsorship

Because the only requirement for membership is being nuts. That's why everything important (like we are not doctors) is written down.

Think of any business or organization without any established standards, checks and balances. Now put someone in charge of it who may or not be crazy at any given time. Get the picture?

Anonymous
The word "desire"

I was once at a meeting where the word "desire" was discussed; as in "The only requirement for membership is the desire to stop drinking." Nothing there says you're excommunicated if you aren't able to stop yet.

Anonymous
big book knowledge

Knowledge never made anyone relapse in AA. It's failure to practice the answer known.

Anonymous
RE: big book knowledge

What you don't know never made anyone relapse it’s what you think you know that is not so that causes the trouble.
Let go and let Joe - LOl

soberzuzu
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Surrender Some More

I was complaining to my Sponsor about how constantly busy and frazzled I am. She said "if you are over-whelmed it usually means you are under-surrendered." I silently growled, but I knew she was right . . .

Anonymous
Overwhelmed!

Did anyone ever meet anyone who was just simply WHELMED!

Anonymous
Overwhelmed.

I often hear folk say "I AM OVERWHELMED!"

I am in my 75th. year and I have yet to meet someone who was just "WHELMED!!!"

Anonymous
... good point

... i can identify with th@ - & - may be able to keep it in mind - next time i get the same way ! otis.

Anonymous
RE: Surrender Some More

God is not looking for people to surrender he gives the courage and is not interested in cowards

Anonymous
God is interested in everyone.

God is interested in everyone therefore he is interested in cowards!!!

Anonymous
Sober for a long time...humour!

I am in my 75th. year now and my Sponsor is older.

He told me that a 20 year old asked him,"HOW DO I BECOME AN OLDTIMER?"

He replied, "Don't take the first drink, work the AA way of life, and by the way PLEASE DON'T DIE."

JamesX
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Okay

Okay

Anonymous
"Don't think, don't drink,

"Don't think, don't drink, and get to a meeting!"

Anonymous
"Don't think. Don't drink and get to a meeting!"

An excellent piece of advice!

Anonymous
?

cant stop need help too weak two days trying for three.
pray for me!!!!!! jonny.

Anonymous
Surrender.

One big problem that I had was that failed all the time to get rid of my inner yearning for the the God of my own understanding!

Anonymous
Try "giving up"

Almost three years ago, I send my first sincere prayer to God. Actually, I prayed to the dome light in the car. I asked for guidance and a sign I was doing what He wanted me to do. That's "God" Him, Her or It. Not of a religion or even what other AA's think God is. Just something greater than me. That's all.

I went into a meeting and met a sponsor there.

No one told me that no matter how bad it SUCKS, it WILL PASS, no matter what you do or don't do, AND that some days ARE going to suck, whether you are sober or not! They will just suck much more if you're high is all.

Know that the reason you use WON'T fix the issue of why you hurt. EVER. One you know that in your heart, atheist or not, you're ready 110% to quit. Because getting high doesn't help.

Call another AA, get or call your sponsor. Know it's OK to hurt, feel sad, cry, be furious, etc. Go for a run; that worked well for me, especially when I'm furious! Eat something. Talk to someone. Volunteer at PAWS or somewhere that speaks to you. "Get OUT of yourself!" As they say. Ask about someone else, and REALLY HEAR the answers.

Go see a movie you have been waiting on. Read a brand-new book. Sniff a fresh puppy! Learn a new language. Work on your typing skills or anything you always wanted to learn.

It's not ABOUT weakness, Jonny, TRUST ME. It's a mental illness, as stated in "The Dr.'s Opinion" at the start of the Big Book of AA.

NEVER, EVER pick up that first drink. LITERALLY! Knock it over if you have to.

It WILL get better, it's just that part of your mind hates you and you don't have much practice doing other things besides using yet. It's been three years, and TRUST ME, the day will come when you wouldn't trade your worst day sober for your best day stoned out of your mind, because you KNOW you always have to pay for it later!

May like Dr. Amen's Change your Brain, Change your life, book about SPECT scans and alcoholism.

Anonymous
can't stop

you already have stopped. we are all weak and need each other. my sponsor
dared me to be a burden,make mistakes and do what i didn't want to do--which was everything. Because i am weak, i am sober 42 years. i need you

Anonymous
RE: can't stop

Try to let go and let God if you can't rely on God find an outside sponsor a parole officer may help you for a while when all else fails come on back and try A.A. next time and if God runs you out sponsors are known to blame God for it too.

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