From the December 1944 magazine.

The Children Say What A.A. Means to Them

A.A.s Make Wonderful Fathers. . .

I am an alcoholic's daughter. I think what I missed most in my childhood was a feeling of security. A child needs to feel that home is always the same, always a place to bring friends and always a place of strength on which she can rely. Her father should be to her a paragon of virtue. Father's the man of whom mother is always considerate, and the person the child must respect and please. But you all know that the home of an alcoholic is not like this at all. It's an awful strain on a child to know that her father is not like other fathers, that she can't bring other children home because Dad might be tight. I also remember how afraid of Dad I was when he was drunk.

Mom handled our problem in the best way I can imagine. When Dad would come home tight, she and I would discuss very seriously whether we should leave for a trip this time or wait until the next time. And when we would go, we'd have a wonderful time at my Grandmother's or at a hotel in New York City. I must confess that when life was running too smoothly at home, sometimes I'd wish that Dad would go on a binge, so Mom and I could have a vacation.

-- Ed F.'s 18-year-old daughter, Joan

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