From the August 1974 magazine.

Loving Detachment

We can help a lot more if we accept the fact that we are powerless over another alcoholic

MANY ALCOHOLICS cringe when someone uses the word "detachment." To them, it means lack of interest, abandonment, even separation or divorce from a nonalcoholic spouse. It came as something of a surprise, therefore, when my AA wife told me that what I had learned about detachment in Al-Anon had been of inestimable help to her in her Twelfth Step work!

What is detachment and how can it be applied in AA? It is not an easy concept to grasp, since it can so easily be misunderstood. In Al-Anon, we try to detach from the problem, not from the person. The expression "loving detachment" is used. That may sound like a contradiction in terms, but it accurately describes the attitude necessary to help set the stage for the alcoholic's recovery.

-- J. D.

Poughkeepsie, New York

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