From the November 1954 magazine.

An Inside Job

I'VE been told that we feel toward others pretty much the same way we feel toward ourselves. If we like ourselves, we like others. This self-attitude is supposed to mold a child's pattern of relations with others and become part of his permanent personality.

I've noticed that my attitude toward others is not of a permanent nature. It fluctuates from day to day. If I love the world it's because I'm pleased with myself. But if I'm unhappy with the other two and a half billion, and stop to take a little Tenth Step inventory, I find that what is wrong with the world lies within. When I enter into relations with groups or individuals, and find that their attitude isn't what I think it should be, you can bet that my attitude isn't what it should be. Upon analyzing my attitude when I'm displeased with others, I find that the basis of my relationship, at the time, is of a self-seeking nature. I subconsciously know this is counter-AA and am displeased with myself. This displeasure projects to others; they sense it, and the results aren't very successful.

-- E. J. H

Nashville, Tennessee

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