Dear Grapevine

Shake my hand

I have found myself having trouble setting my boundaries in the rooms of AA. As a woman, when I offer my hand instead of a hug, I wish the men in the rooms would respect that. A lot of women in the program have been abused physically and no one knows what kind of day we are having mentally--a hug may trigger some bad memories. Don't make us feel bad by saying, "Oh, come on, what is this? Give me a hug."

I would like to suggest this as a topic. Thanks for listening.