From the November 2013 magazine. First printed in October 2006.

November 2013: Gruff Love

At a recent meeting, we discussed the Twelfth Step. The leader spoke, in part, about the unfairness of life and a God who allows injustice to take place. His sibling had died some months ago and he still struggled to come to terms with his loss.

I left the meeting disappointed with myself for having offered sympathy without drawing on my own experience. His lingering grief reminded me of a time, 13 years earlier, when I had shared from a similar painful place. I hadn’t shared about a death, although I, too, had lost siblings in recovery. I shared about the pain I felt from a then-recent marital separation.

-- David S.

New York, New York

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