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From the November 2013 magazine.

November 2013: Getting the Boot

How self-will run riot gave her a swift kick in the pants

I acquired my first sponsor after hearing her lead at a meeting. She mentioned relationships in recovery, which was all I was really interested in at that time. I would scan the room for the cutest man and go after him. Relationships were a great distraction from learning a new way of life. I didn’t have the ability to fully listen and learn during my first white-knuckle attempt at staying sober. I couldn’t hear her warning of the dangers of getting involved with another recovering alcoholic. She had met her husband in the rooms of AA, and her marriage to him was a success. That was all I needed to hear. I had no idea that relationships required work and love! I just wanted one. I wanted someone to fill the emptiness in my life.

I asked her to be my sponsor that night. The next evening I called her from the backseat of a car on the way to a meeting. Her words went in one ear and out the other. I have no idea what she said that night because my new AA sweetheart was sitting next to me in the car. I thought I was “doing the right thing.” My sponsor had said to call her no matter what, so that’s what I did.

-- April P.

Monongahela, Pennsylvania

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