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Published November 2013.

Me and You and AA

After a relationship in the rooms ends, she had to strengthen her focus on her own sobriety

At a point during my recovery, my boyfriend, Paul, who is also sober, decided we needed to take some space from each other and live apart. I was working fulltime and going to school fulltime. Paul had an adult son struggling with addiction and another son testing the waters. We both had financial stress. He and I began to focus more and more on outside influences and less on our own recovery. We became unhealthy for ourselves and for each other.

Prior to our break up, I still managed to make one or two meetings a week but it wasn't enough. I stopped attending therapy and exercising. I failed to reach out to my sponsor and my girl friends. I made Paul my entire support system. In his words, "he was supporting me and yet he couldn't support himself." It was a pretty accurate portrayal of our dynamic.

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