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Topic: Dating
Three coffee dates in one afternoon? A member tells how he survived
Before I stopped drinking and began recovery, dating was not a common occurrence in my life. The shame and secrecy of growing up as a closeted gay boy in suburban Ohio had left me with internal...
In my first few months of being sober, I didn’t believe the dating suggestions applied to me. I was seeing another AA member, and you could say we were on a pink cloud. I didn’t realize it at the...
She turned 40 and her date stood her up. That's just fine with her.
I had a date scheduled for this past Friday night. It was a first date; we had met through an internet dating website. When I say we “met,” I mean that we had exchanged a few emails, talked on the...
You know two AAs are on a second date when you see the moving van in the driveway
I was sort of in a relationship when I came into AA. I told my sponsor I probably should break up with him since the suggestion was to not date anyone in the first year. She explained to me that the...
A sober guy learns that the best things take time
Newcomers to AA often look for new relationships before they’re ready. Luckily, my first sponsor stopped me in time. He explained why no major decisions should be made during the first two years of...
When I arrived in Alcoholics Anonymous, I flew in with everything still intact—but barely. I had not lost the home, the man, the kids or the job. But I definitely felt that if I didn’t stop drinking...
Sober dating doesn't always have to be messy
Immediately upon entering AA, I was told by members that new people don’t date for their first year, because they really have no idea yet how sick they are. I was in a home group in New York’s East...
A friend of mine and I started a gay group in our town about four years ago. Philosophically I am opposed to special interest groups of any kind, as I feel that our common problem brings us together...
Sometimes Cupid's darts hit the wrong mark - From the January 1962 Grapevine
IF LAURIE just wouldn't drink," said her friends, including me. Anyone could see that Laurie and drink didn't mix. After that second or third martini, Laurie turned into a Miss Hyde. Whether she was...
From the November 1969 Grapevine
An interesting aspect of our Fellow ship is that one of our most serious problems, collectively speaking, is mentioned very little or not at all, either at meetings or in our literature. That problem...

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