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Published January 2012.

Web Exclusive: Dealing with our Character Defects

He bottomed out and had to seek outside help to deal with his sexual misconduct

My name is Jim, and I'm an alcoholic. I'm also a drug addict, and a sex addict but I'm no longer a hypocrite. I got sober in AA over 20 years ago at age 24. I'm grateful for the time. I wish I could say that I put the plug in the jug and everything got better. My problem is that I was only willing to do so much recovery work. I distrust authority figures, I hate getting too touchy feely, I don't like looking too hard at what makes me tick and I don't like pain.

What I do like is an easier softer way, loop holes and finding something readily available to take me away from myself—and I don't mean Calgon. When I came to AA, I was very reluctant, I didn't want to be "Mr. AA." I was a very big defender of being a dry drunk for a while. When I used to hear people say that if they were going to be dry they might as well drink, I got steamed. I'd openly argue that at least the cops wouldn't pull me over for being dry.

-- Jim

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