From the March 2011 magazine.

March 2011: Get a Commitment

Her sponsor said she’d better start doing service if she wanted to stay sober

"She got me busy in short order. She suggested, “Get a commitment, attend the roundup, wear a dress and don’t forget to bring a plate of cookies."

Being sponsored is a fundamental part of sobriety. When I began my journey in a women’s recovery home in 1983, I asked a woman who had six months of sobriety if she would be my sponsor and she had the good sense to tell me to keep looking. I ended up being expelled from that house because, though sober, I was not adhering to the “suggested guidelines” for sobriety. Most people thought I would be drunk before the week was over. I still didn’t have a vehicle, and a young man I was smitten with took me to his home group. He pointed out two women in the meeting hall and said, “Pick one of them.”

Because I was still immensely vain, I chose the thinnest one and as the meeting concluded I managed to stammer out my request. She asked me, “Are you willing to go to any length?” Though this made no sense to me, I nodded yes. I had no idea what I had just agreed to. This simple answer would change my life. Over the next several months I began to learn what “being sober” was all about.

-- Roxanne R.

Valley Center, California

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