WHAT is FORGIVENESS? As an alcoholic, now sober In AA, I think that I know what it feels like to be forgiven by other people. I could not feel forgiveness in my drinking days because I could not forgive myself. I was playing God and counted myself worthy only of punishment. With continuous sobriety comes a gradual and happy awareness of the forgiveness of God for our previous maltreatment of others and ourselves. Only with this gradual awareness comes the ability, I believe, to forgive others and ourselves to some degree.