How Group Conscious Are You?
I BELIEVE that if a group has "a group conscience" then it can take an inventory, and I am part of that inventory. My inventory includes my own behavior towards my group and each individual member, to other groups and to AA as a whole.
I first ask myself: Am I a good AA member?
Then: What is my inventory as part of my group?
DO I. . .
- Attend meetings only when "I need a meeting?". . .feel like it?
- Always refuse to hold any office at any time even when I could? Shun responsibility, refuse to run errands, make coffee, wipe a cup, empty ash trays, set up chairs and ignore anything that needs doing by refusing to notice--always manage to "let somebody else do it"?
- Neglect to talk to newcomers, or worse, listen to them? Drift off to certain little cliques of personal friends after meetings--or just "beat it," always with good reasons, too tired, too busy--TV more often than not?
- Turn down, or over to someone else, all Twelfth Step calls, when I could have gone? Refuse to speak or to find someone in my place, before non-AA groups, or students, without good reasons?
- Give up after a time or two recontacting the sick alcoholic. Use the "not ready," "not honest," routine? Try to carry the alcoholic instead of the message? Forget that I go to see the sick alcoholic not because he is an alcoholic (only he can say he is or isn't) but because I am?
DO I. . .
- Make no effort to attend other meetings, help other groups get started or give a lift to an older group? Encourage other groups to visit us, or am I (pardon the expression) a tight little island?
- Show no interest in our Traditions, General Service, or world-wide AA? Have I grown tight with my money when I do not have to be, not realizing the pamphlets and other services to help other alcoholics "grow not on trees"?
- Indulge in criticism, resentment, or self-pity, toward the group, a member or members? Complain of boredom, repetition, the speakers, the chairman? Am I becoming part of the problem instead of helping to solve it?
- Criticize a member to other members behind his back with no chance for him to defend himself? Criticize slippers? Take people's moral inventory?
- Do these things behind the group's back without trying to help the situation in any way?
. . . DO I?