Does Happy Equal Correct?

Ever get the feeling that if you're not "happy, joyous, and free," then you're "not working the program?" If you're unhappy, you must be doing it wrong, right? Ever have another AA tell you that? If you're like me, nothing raises your hackles more than "being made wrong." I'm already unhappy, joyless, and fettered, and someone "helps" me by raising high the Big Book and smacking me in the head with it! I can't remember the time when being reminded that I'm the cause of my own misery made me feel any better.