Learning to feel

Early in my sobriety, my sponsor Linda told me that I was allowed to call and whine about a situation exactly once. After that, we were going to talk about solutions, not problems. She also gave me a time limit on feeling sorry for myself. I can’t remember if it was 10 minutes or 15 or an hour. Maybe it was dependent on the seriousness of whatever had just occurred. But there was a definite parameter.