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From the October 2012 magazine.

October 2012: A Brother's Mission

A trip to the cemetery for a Ninth Step amend came with some beautiful surprises

One night, a sponsee called. He talked a mile a minute, recounting an altercation only moments before with a deliveryman. No punches were thrown, but wonton soup and fried rice had sailed out the front door into the street. We talked about the danger of his righteous anger. The Big Book is emphatic about this: Unrestrained anger can lead to a drink. It can also do real damage to the people around us. On that point, I spoke from experience.

About 10 years ago, my younger brother, just 30, had a massive stroke. His doctors gave him a few days to live. I flew out to join my family at the hospital. I had been through this with Mother, who had died from a stroke when I was in college. Against all odds my brother survived, although the stroke left him partially blind and unable to speak or walk. After six weeks in the hospital, the doctors prepared to discharge him. Difficult decisions had to be made about his care outside the hospital, decisions that were my father’s to make. When he made them, I thought him profoundly mistaken. And I told him so.

-- Anonymous

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