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A wonderful life

AFter 11.5 years, I have a wonderful life. It has not been through resting on my laurels, thats for sure. Its about contstant vigilant seeking. Seeking daily, hourly, minute, seconds. What I focus on in my life will govern my life. I am what I put in. If i put in God, I get out God, if I put in crap, I get out crap. The work I do on the inside, manifests itself on the ouside. I have been reborn as it says in the 12/12. As I quit acting on the character defects of my old self, and act on the characteristsics of God, I will become more God like, ODAT. Gods the answer what is the question.


This was a breakthrough concept. We now know this is not an "allergy" as medical doctors use the term. I am not allergic to alcohol...I respond exactly how everyone would respond with varying differences in quantity consumed. I just can't turn off the drinking and stop at a "normie" level. But this is an example of what I hear at meetings too much...misinformation and dogma. I have shared my ideas about how this is a non-allergy at meetings, and I was met with a cool response, or no response. This program does not attract critical thinkers, or at least I haven't found a meeting that does. So much is said that does not make any sense at all, but we are directed to be respectful--a good thing. Here's what I heard the other day: A woman trying to cut down on sugar prayed to God, asking him if she could have a cookie. God replied that yes, it is OK to have a cookie. So she had a cookie. Or the woman who said God put her (abusive) boyfriend in her life for a reason, and she is doing God's will to put up with the abusive boyfriend. Where are those meetings where AAs have a modicum of common sense???

Critical Thinker??

You write: I respond exactly how everyone would respond with
varying differences in quanity consumed. Then you write: I
just can't turn off the drinking at a "normie" level.
I, as an alcoholic, do not respond to alcohol like
a normal drinker. For me, the first drink starts a
craving, desire for more and more alcohol. Dr Silkworth
called it an allergy. That is good enough for me. When
I introduce alcohol into by body, I get severe,
predictable symptoms. Thus, I ought to stay away from
liquor, peanuts or whatever I find I am allergic to.

allergy refutation

My recent experience with aa agrees closely with yours.
After 22 years, I am strongly considering quiting something that I once held very dear.
Ole Bleedin Heart

Joined: 2011-08-03
""We believe, and so

""We believe, and so suggested a few years ago, that the action of alcohol on these chronic alcoholics is a manifestation of an allegy; that the phenonmenon of craving is limited to this class and never occurs in the average temperate drinker. These allergic types can never use alcohol in any form at all; and once having formed the habit and found they cannot break it, once having lost their self-confidence, their reliance upon things human, their problems pile up on them and become astonishgingly difficult to solve." BB p XXVi Where's the argument?

I am glad for everything...

I am not glad for everything... that has happened in my life! I am not glad for instance that my husband was killed in an accident or that my eldest son is not speaking to me. I am however, grateful for the change and the growth in me that has resulted from those events, and the closeness to my HP that has developed because of them. I am definitely glad I have the Fellowship to see me through!

our dilema is two-fold

Obsession of mind/ allergy of body, seems like its right. But how does this passage shatter my ego? The truth is, if it don't, I will probably die. Death is not a viable solution to this nor is sober insanity. If I don't get teachable, I will have one or the other due to MY wonderful ego. Why did God give us such a thing? Because, mastering our ego is going to be our lifes work. It's what gives us character, integrity, dignity. It's what makes us able to be human. It's what makes us worth while. It's what makes us usable which is, no doubt, Gods intention for us; all of us.

our dilema is two-fold

Obsession of mind/ allergy of body, seems like its right. But how does this passage shatter my ego? The truth is, if it don't, I will probably die. Death is not a viable solution to this nor is sober insanity. If I don't get teachable, I will have one or the other due to MY wonderful ego. Why did God give us such a thing? Because, mastering our ego is going to be our lifes work. It's what gives us character, integrity, dignity. It's what makes us able to be human. It's what makes us worth while. It's what makes us usable which is, no doubt, Gods intention for us; all of us.

daily quote

I haven't done past step 3 yet I think that explains my pain they say pain is optional :) Looking forward to this.Sound like freedom.


The Grapevine quote really helps me to know that I can live my life free of alcohol.

For Aug 27th quote

I agree plus you must accept what you have is enough or you don't get more but once you accept that's enough you get all you need! Robbie R.

On Grace Aug22

Grace was not something I earned or won, nor was it a God giving Right. It is giving and shown by God unconditionaly. It is only by his Grace that I was able to amit I was a drunk and made the stepts to to something about it enough said. Thank you for leting me share.

no longer have to be right

This solved so many problems for me. I was always competing with my brother and it made for a terrible relationship. I usually came up short and got resentful about that, but had to keep competing. I think he enjoyed it too.
I gave it up and just let him be right and be the first or better or whatever. When I really stopped, so did he and we got to form a whole new relationship based on mutual respect and love.



I know what you mean.. I'm

I know what you mean.. I'm learning how to accept people, places and things the way they r... Like they say, "it is.. What it is.". God knows I don't have to be right anymore.. I just want to be happy, joyous n free..

I know what you mean.. I'm

I know what you mean.. I'm learning how to accept people, places and things the way they r... Like they say, "it is.. What it is.". God knows I don't have to be right anymore.. I just want to be happy, joyous n free..


I beg to differ. I am often right. That doesn't
always make me happy. There are many times when I
am right and I wish I were mistaken. But the truth
is always the truth, even if it is tragic. ANONYMOUS


One dictionary defines amends as "to change" so to a great extent by simply staying sober and changing my behavior I am making a form of amends, especially to those I can't find for one reason or another or to those who have passed away. Also by helping others I can make amends because I may be helping those in their relations avoid the pain I put my relations through.

Joined: 2011-06-07
no new quotes for me

I unsubscribed from the daily quotes because I found them to be useless homilies that that offered little in the way support and nothing in the way of contemplative value.

Quote for August 9th 2012

I try not to use the words I'm sorry in any amends. I am trying to give something back. A remorseful mumbling won't fit the bill. I disagree with this: "ask people to forgive me, this will remove the burden from my shoulders". This implies I'm doing the amends to seek something for myself, i.e. forgiveness and relief from my burden. And this is dependant on whether or not I can manipulate someone to give this to me. Taking from them again. The Big Book states main purpose of the 9th step amends is to be of maximum service to God and the people about me.

quote for August 9, 2012

This is so true for me! It took me awhile to realize this but now I do !!!!!! It's a great feeling ! Pam

Grapevine Quote 8/09/12

Just my own opinion of course .... I don't ask victims of my poor behaviors forgiveness, I simply make amends (Step 10 currently). I've already abused them by doing/saying something inappropriate and to request of them forgiveness just compounds that abuse of expectation to accommodate me further.d I close my discussion with them asking if there is anything I can do to make the situation right, then act accordingly.



Teachings of Amends

I too find the steps simple yet tough. When the list for those you hurt and those that have tried to help you get long enough, it becomes difficult to even find them. We just try to give it our honest best effort for our Higher Power... love. I have to be careful, loving God and loving acts of honesty in all my affairs are two different things.
My gut says he wants us to maintain a conscience contact with our HP... awareness of our spiritual purpose requires thought on our part. Some have hurt more than others... I have to pray and believe those people understand and forgive. Moving forward can be about the most painful ammend one can make. I know.

From one Addict to Another,


I only can change myselt. I

I only can change myselt. I must accept others as they are. When I was a drunk I didn´t accept opinions diferent diference of the my apinions. I wanted that the people was as I wanted. I never could do it. Now I only want change myself

without you im nothing.

one thousand:four hundred:& sixty-one:days.i love each and everyone of you,as without you im nothing..

congrats! :)

congrats! :)



Being able to be honest about your self.

I can understand more and more about becoming an honest person about sobriety and spirituality.I want to achieve everything that life has to offer me and sometimes if I wait long enough I will eventually get it.I want to be of service to everyone I meet.So for me to do this I need to stay active and keep a positive outlook. JFT:I will keep working on your strenghts and pursue righteousness at all costs.No matter what don't use!


Someday's I do almost feet normal and sane. That's the problem! It's "somedays" and the feeling doesn't last!

Keep the faith

Keep the faith and do the program everyday and the feeling's of normal and sane will become natural for you.It happens when you have peace inside yourself. Pam

The daily quote is an

The daily quote is an important part of each day as I open up my spirit to how God chooses to work in my life. thank you


It has been my experience that when I am angry, it is actually pain or fear and I am either unwilling to deal with it or unable to face it.


Follow the program and believe in your true self and you will be able to deal with it and face it head on !! pam

Joined: 2011-12-02
Grateful for AA

I am an alcoholic. AA shows me to be grateful. I am grateful for God and sobriety today. I feel that God has a solution for all of my problems today. I offer myself to him today for him to do with as he wishes. God always has the best plan for my life. He never lets me down if I strive to do his will. If I strive to do his will I feel that I am okay. The spiritual principles work in my life 24 hours a day. I am grateful.

Aug 2 Quote: Defending AA in public

Because it is so much apart of our daily lives and, indeed, in many cases the reason we ARE living today, it is easy to forget that most of our population doesn't need AA and has no reason to. True, AA is much more known today than when the quote was written in 1965, but still most folks are ignorant as to what it truly has done and continues to do for us who need and want it. Knowledge abates fear and can go a long way in abolishing any stigma that is still prevalent about alcoholics in much of our world. Thank you PI for doing your part in teaching the "normies" about our wonderful program!
Marjie E.
Paradise, CA


Bill wrote that we ought to develop the best relations
possible with the general public. Our P.I. committees can
try to spread the word that Alcoholics Anonymous is
everything the preamble says it is. We want to be as
attractive as possible. We want to be known as a
fellowship of men and women. But today the newcomer
finds a Fellowship of Big Book thumpers, and 12 step
pushers. I wonder how long it will be before fellowship
in the preamble morphs into Fellowship.
The preamble reads that we are not allied with any
sect or denomination. Then we tell newcomers and all
others: That one is God! May you find Him NOW!. We
have already started with the chant: Hi Joe! Welcome!
After praying for all and sundry in our "ring around
the rosy" circle, we continue chanting, Keep coming
back, it works if you work it, so work it you're
worth it, while pumping arms up and down. This must
appear weird to newcomers and the general public.
Some members say "Well, we are not a glum lot".
Being serious about sobriety does not make us a
glum lot.
I believe that much of the stigma surrounding
alcoholism has lessened. Now we need to educate
the public as to what Alcoholics Anonymous is.(or was)
Then we must return to what A.A. was like in
the 1960's and 1970's, before it became some type
of strange religious cult. ANONYMOUS

I can be as happy as I want.

I can be as happy as I want. If I make my work and look for my relativities I am going to feel well. If I didn´t argued today I feel well. But I argued today, I treated poorly anybody, I didn´t my work probabyly I am going to be unhappy. this is my dessition.

Quote of the Day

I cannot express how wonderful it is to wake up each day and after my daily prayer & meditation, I have a wonderful message in my email box from The Grapevine. These daily quotes carried me through while I was away from meetings and my fellow members for over a month! I applaude the Grapevine Board & Committee for the vision and foresight to our fellowship with this simple yet powerful tool!

Thank you for all the work you are doing for "our fellowship".

Serene in the South!

July 24 Quote of the Day

Struggling through the last 10 months with my home group being my pillar of strength and searching in the morning and before bed for a "spiritual guide", I take today's quote as a basic life changing hurdle. The confusion of ideas and solutions roaring about in my head go unanswered. "I am responsible for my actions". In the past, I was used to deciding and proceeding with solutions, after considering pros and cons, on a daily basis, whether in my business or personal life. At this juncture of my recovery, I spend a lot of time searching for answers in quiet times by running these decision points through my mind and asking for whatever guidance is available. This is frustrating me and leading me to that place where alcohol suggests that it could help me this time. No friggin' way. Have one of you wandered down this path and found a path other than the "Born again" speech? Thank you - Ken


All of this stopped after I took the steps. I found that there was no time nor energy for self obsession any longer, while I was carrying the message of redemption and recovery (12th Step). Lots of "opinions" around AA rooms about being/not being normal. Our program of recovery guarantees normalcy once we've taken the steps as laid out in the first 165 pages of our Book. c. on page 60 means precisely what it says. I started the getting rid of my old ideas back in the 80's when Joe & Charlie were revving up as circuit speakers. Now they can be found on the internet at under AA speakers. Their 4th step mp3 is such a simple and accurate guide to taking the 4th step, with simple instructions about the true nature of our Book. My suggestion: if you want AA recovery, read the book, especially the first 164 pages (original basic recovery text). Get to know it thoroughly so that you can use exactly what it says to deal with your daily life. Take a leap and read pages 84-88 daily (10th & 11th Steps). This is a guide for how to live life on life's terms. Immediately dig into taking your inventory (writing the 4th), get a sponsor to read it to (5th step), or go to a minister to do this (my opinion about ministers/clergy is that they have formal education and advanced degrees and are very good at helping us see ourselves in what we've written about our past lives.) Do not make the mistake of thinking and believing that because you have alcoholism that you are doomed to being stuck with so called "alcoholic thinking" for the rest of your life. Taking the steps guarantees us a normal, average responsible life. We just have to do the work, just like all normal people do, in order to become mature adults. It's not rocket science. And about this idea that if I/you pray about a certain topic, that an obvious answer is supposed to appear by 9a.m. (wink) .. get rid of that by accepting that the importance of expression of faith in Creator (my HP name) is the action of the prayer ... it takes humility to ask for help. Take comfort in that and the wait for "an answer" is so much more comfortable.
Remember that thoughts of drinking alcohol for the alcohol are expressions of insanity. Remember that there is no possibility that both insanity and a sound relationship with Creator can live in the same space, at the same time. A wish for the relief of a drink is an insane thought. I arrived at AA insane. I took the steps, all of them, and now have been doing the maintenance steps (10, 11, 12) for 30 years. This has made me an average, normal human being, with normal, average circumstances. I can go anywhere I want. I can do anything I choose, just like a normal, average human can. I am sane, so just like a normal person I can make correct choices about what to do next, based on awareness of my health limitations (history of alcoholism, 3 cancer episodes, blood clots in my left leg, etc.) so my life choices are based on taking into consideration ALL the factors about myself. Not rocket science.
My best to you.

Joined: 2012-03-04
Re: Struggling...

Joe and Charlie revved up as circuit speakers alright. They set the trend for putting personalities before principles. AA runs smoothly on three sets of principles, like a ship running smoothly on three tuned engines. By revving the Big Book up to full throttle and ignoring the Traditions and Concepts, all Joe and Charlie did was tinker with one engine and jammed their spanners in the other two. I don’t think the good ship AA is going sail very much further by running with two disabled engines and with the gear of Tradition Twelve set in reverse. The Big Book is the basic text of Alcoholics Anonymous, just that, nothing more. In my view not enough people are moving on from this basic text to get to understand the intermediate and advanced texts which deal with AA unity and services. By getting to know these it has made me grow to be a lot less cocky than I was. I realize I only know but a little. I’m glad to see that Joe and Charlie are deemed by the group conscience to be outside issues in the Pacific Regional report, because their influence has wrecked AA unity in my area in Great Britain. Amidst the brainwashing of newcomers and arguments, I’m sure a lot have left AA. Some will probably drink and die of alcoholism as a result. In my experience a cult following of Joe and Charlie has turned into a Primary Purpose Group of AA (Dallas) cult. Dr. Bob warned about the dangers of sponsor worship.

Extracts from Pacific Regional Final Report 2010 p 5:
“Outside Issues-Are We on the Precipice”?
“On the third topic, the consensus was that promoting school activities is an outside issue, and that tapes such as “Joe and Charlie” along with books other than A.A. publications are outside issues.”

Joined: 2012-03-04
Re: Struggling

Before anyone logs on to XA speakers I think they would do well to log in to the AA Grapevine story archive and read the article “unrecorded” (A.A. Grapevine August 2007) to see how some of these recordings are made. I don’t regard XA speakers to be an AA website. It is yet another multi purpose .org website with a yellow Donate button; an outside enterprise with an implied connection to A.A. I’m wondering what has happened to guardianship of our traditions? Extracts from “unrecorded”:

“…Some speakers are recorded without their knowledge or permission. For instance, one friend of mine, a gay schoolteacher, was horrified to discover that his AA talk had been recorded and sold without his knowledge……. Similarly, if we have to agree to be recorded before being invited to tell our AA stories, then Alcoholics Anonymous has lost its way……Some tapers act as "booking agents" for AA meetings, conventions, round-ups, and conferences. They're business people, and they recommend, as speakers, those whose recordings sell lots of copies………. Generally, tapers won't recommend speakers who won't allow their talks to be recorded, because it's a bad business decision for them…..”

I’m reminded of the words of Bill W:

“Conservative AAs realize that business ventures or solicitations carrying the AA endorsement are truly dangerous to us all. Were this practice to become general, the lid would be off. Promoters, AA and otherwise, would have a field day.” (Bill W. AA Grapevine May 1947, The Language of the Heart page 55)

Alcohol Suggests Many Things!

My disease likes to talk to me, especially if I've been "thinking". I'm not sure what kind of answers you are searching for, but when I was 10 months sober, I searched for answers to why am I an alcoholic. Personally, I found those searches counterproductive to my peace and serenity. For me, trying to figure it all out just allowed my disease to slither through the cracks of my level of acceptance. I had to fully accept that I am an if's, and's, or especially but's! I choose to follow the directions in the book, work the steps with my sponsor, help others and go to meetings. I had a friend and mentor tell me once that my mind was a scary place to go and I should never go alone! LOL! After 5 years of sobriety, I still get in my head and my disease @#$*'s with me by making little statements like "Just take a shot of vodka". When this happens I simply tell my diseased to "shut the #@*& up" or I say "*$%^ you" and I say it as if my life depends on it, because it does.

In my first year of sobriety, I had the misconception that I would never have fun again, but that turned out to be just another lie my screwed up brain had conceived. I'm having the time of my life. I've never been more comfortable in my own skin! I feel connected to something more powerful than myself and I am constantly learning. This is a program of action and I have found that if I put as much energy into my program as I put into my using (making sure I never ran out of anything!) then I'm going to be FABULOUS! As long as I'm doing what is suggested in the book and by my sponsor, it's a guaranteed deal, but I have to take action. The thought of taking a drink may come to my mind, but every time it does....I look back and see that I was restless, irritable and/or discontent with some person, place, thing or situation in my life. The emotions always come before the though of a drink.....ALWAYS. The trick is to stay aware of what emotions I am feeling and take the appropriate action to get rid of those negative feelings. I have the power to do that now, where I used to roll around in them.

Hope this helped, just a little.

thoughts in my head

I can really relate to what your talking about. Racing thoughts abound when you have deceisons to make. quieting the thoughts is the best thing to do.I call it the defeatist babbling of the brain. We need to tune into the poitive thoughts and dismiss the negative ones. It takes practice, but it works. As you said alcohol is not the answer at all. Prayer and asking guidance from your higher power helps quite the mind.Sounds like you are doing what you need to do!! thanks for your honesty. Catherine

Thought's in my Head.

I find when I have thought's in my Head (Usually Arguing with other People)I have to do a mini Inventory on myself and often find my Proogram is missing something,find Resntments building up and we all know what Resentments can do to a Person.
Alcahol did work at one time but not any more.I find handing thing's over to my higher Power a good way to deal with these Thought's in my Head.Thank You (And the Serenty Prayer said ove and over helps as well.

July 24 Quote of the Day

If you are young in recovery (10 months might be equal to a baby bringing his/her up on his/her hands and knees and trying to crawl and move around - this is not an insult!)acouple of things come to mind. The first is get a SPONSOR! (Remember if you were so smart what the in the #@$% you doing here anyway?) along with this are involved a few actions 1) NO MAJOR CHANGES (job,home,marital,apologies,etc) 2) no cruises. 3) absolutely no personal involvement with any female in AA! (we call that 13th steppin') you can bet one of you will drink and don't forget that the DOOR may not open after a slip! This is a physical disease First and recover starts physically first.. by working on your recovery with a sponsor and getting yourself back on your feet physically your mental obcessions will reduce drastically, if you are serious about recovery you will find a higher power (read the first 164 pages of the Big Book) because in entering the 2nd step you can return to sanity and the 3rd step is turning your will over to the care of God (you decide who the GOD is! not anyone else). This could be handled simply by doing the next right thing! and if you question those decisions CALL your sponsor - he's been there!) Born Again is a Christian statement... we find it also in working the steps and finding that the PROMISES *pg 88 are true - that the 11th step does bring peace to our hearts, and also, working this program in all areas of our lives (read the first 164 pgs. then after your 1st year pick "Emotional Sobriety - The Next Frontier") But again, FIND a sponsor immediately even if it is a temperary sponsor - I am sure that there is a list of temp sponsors list at your mtg! May the God you choose protect you and yours! and if you need a reason for living and the higher power thing bothers you - I stronly suggest you go to Jan 6 in the 24 Hour book and memorize it! It is a reason for living and It has worked well for me (and still does) - Charlie C

Born again

A lot of us struggle. Life in today's world is difficult.
In some of Bill W.'s writings he writes about "these troubling times". So they have always been with us. Do you
know what Bill did when he felt restless, especially in
the early days. Bill went to the missions and Towns Hospital
to look for another alcoholic to try to help.
Look around at meetings. Find another soul to help,
even if it is just offering a ride, or lend an ear. Get
involved in a group as a coffee maker. Show up early
for a three month period. Be dependable.
I would to tell you to sit down with a "sponsor"; work
those steps, and you will be Born Again. True, it works
that way for a few. If we could sit a new person down
with pencil and paper, tell them: do this and you will
be sober, that would be great. And again it seems to
work that way for some. But for the average alcoholic
recovery is much more complicated.
Bill W. had the white light spiritual awakening.
I truly believe he was "Born again" in a moment of time.
For most alcoholics the change is gradual, many over
long periods of time. I have been to churches where
they told me I have to find God before the end of the
service. In AA we allow more time, as much time as the
individual member wants or needs. This is entirely
up to each individual to work out on his/her own time
schedule. In step two we are told, take it easy. Easy
does It was one of our first slogans.
Ever alcoholic's dream is to be able to drink one
more time and regain control. If you have come this far, that is not going to happen. never!. I have an AA friend who
struggled for 18 months after her fourth rehab. She
was finally relieved, as she continued meetings, and has
been sober with us for a dozen years. I hope this was
not a Born again speech. I hope you stay the course
and remain with us in AA. ANONYMOUS

Bill was on belladonna

The newest documentary about Bill W. is making its way through film festivals and limited screenings. Try to see it.
His white light 4th dimension experiences were a result of the belladonna treatments he was undergoing. This born again idea is misleading. We don't use hallucinogens to find god, but some of us had very similar experiences back in the day when taking drugs. Holding Bill's experiences up as "goals" for us is unrealistic.


This posting is what I would consider misleading. I believe that
Bill W.'s born again experience was the real thing. This
kind of spiritual experience is common and has been
experienced by many, alcoholic or not.
I personally had the same kind of spiritual
experience as Bill W. I had reached a point of desperation,
and asked God for help. "Dear God, if there is a God, in
the name of Christ, please help me! I was relieved of the
obsession in the same manner as Bill W. I was not on any
drug and had been physically free of alcohol for about
60 days. I have heard this same event shared by many
alcoholics over the years.
Bill W., with the help of Dr. Silkworth, developed a
technique, method, of passing this solution to other
alcoholics. Bill describes this on Page 70 in AACA.
I haven't seen the new film, but I will see it
eventually. I do read and believe A.A. history in
Bill's own words.
I feel that the Belladonna message is a harmful
disservice to our spiritual fellowship. But from my
experience the I-SAY FORUM posts messsages from all
points of view. Your point of view disturbs me. ANONYMOUS

I am not the most important

I am not the most important member of the gruop, I am only a member. I am not the boss of the group I am only one man that made service. I am not the owner of the group I am only a part of a fellowship

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