Burning Desire to Share

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Anonymous
plan

OK. Go ahead.

Anonymous
RE: plan

Only our General Service Board of Trustees (GSB) have
the power to "Go ahead". You may not know that, but it
is accurate. Our Board of Trustees have all legal power.
We could get their attention by refusing to send them
any more money. That is the "power of the purse". Bill
explains that in Concept Seven. Our Trustees can either
obey the wishes of the membership, or continue on
their own path. They have recently made profit from the
sale of books and literature acceptable as a second
source of income. They removed the "in 1986" paragraph
from Page S72 in the Service Manual. I assume that this
deletion was "conference approved". In the near future,
our Trustees will begin to accept money from other
sources, further violating Tradition Seven. They do not have
to change the tradition: They just ignore it.
I am deeply concerned about where our financial
support comes from. What concerns me even more is that
so many of our A.A. members do not know the value of
self support. They don't care where the money comes
from. "What difference does it make?". The difference
is whether Alcoholics Anonymous is going to survive or
not. It may never die. We could just remain an eight cylinder engine running on two cylinders, which could
continue for many more decades. Personally, there is
not much more I can do. I can't do it alone. If you
do not help, there is no way I can "Go ahead". If
you are concerned about A.A.'s future, contact your
delegate. Do your own investigation. Seek out others
who may understand.Ignorance is not bliss. It can be fatal. ANONYMOUS

Anonymous
Saving AA

What a great idea. It should be implemented as soon as possible.
love,
mustafa

Anonymous
either or

“some think it’s a rigorous practice of the 12 Steps, some think its sober alcoholics sharing their experience, strength and hope……”

I don’t see where anyone get the idea that it’s an either/or proposition.

I share my experience of what it was like, what happened and what it’s like now.

What it was like is simple enough. I drank too much. I throw in some details for the newcomer in case it might strike a chord that someone else’s story might not.

What happened was a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps. Most of my story is spent on the steps, how I did them. If someone brought a broken car to some kind of car repair group I believe he would need more information about how to fix one than how broken they can get or how good they are after being repaired.

My strength? It took some intestinal fortitude to give up the only way of life I knew, to trust an unknown Higher Power and face my shortcomings and their results. Sometimes it was hard, but I did it. I think if I did you can too.

And hope - What it’s like now?
I personalize how the promises have come true in my life.
Junk vehicles to nice ones.
Replacing what to do for money to what to do with money.
Run down house in a slum to watching the sun rise and set over our land.
One night stands to 12 wonderful years of marriage and growing.
Comfortable around strangers and everyone else.
Still having feelings that jump all over the Richter scale but no longer control my life.
Assertive when I need to be and accepting when I need to.
Happy to live and unafraid to die.
God doing for me what I could not do for myself.

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so helpful my feelings too

so helpful my feelings too jump around but no longer control my inner life the way they used to--thanks for calling that to my attention

Anonymous
either-or both-or-neither

Sounds like your life a perfect life today. Congratulations! I didn't do any of those things you mentioned and I got the same results. Go figure. The program works even if you don't work it.
To me, as long as I don't pick up that first drink and seek goodness its a sober happy hour 24/7. Thanks

Anonymous
re either

Funny, I've never seen anyone hanging around cardiac rehab or a weight watcher's picnic saying "I don't do any of these things and get great results?

Why do we get them?

Anonymous
RE: either, or both

Thanks for a simple message. If we "don't drink" and
show up at meetings to try to share this precious gift
with others, how can we fail? I believe that "It Works"
no ifs, ands or butts. Seek and spread goodness. My
life is not perfect and I am not always happy, but your
message brought a smile. Rose

Anonymous
I'm an alcoholic I can't just

I'm an alcoholic I can't just NOT DRINK. I am sick mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The physical improves in the absence of alcohol. That's not enough for the other three. That's how we can fail.

Anonymous
RE either or

“some think it’s a rigorous practice of the 12 Steps, some think its sober alcoholics sharing their experience, strength and hope……”

I don’t see where anyone get the idea that it’s an either/or proposition.

Some think it's a followship some thinks it's a free gift from God the fellowship

Shhhhh Don't tell the outside sponsorship syetem practicing on people already here helping people out instead of in !

Anonymous
THE PLAN

I am curious about THE PLAN which had gotten a lot of attention in the year 2012. My delegate
returned from the annual conference and gave the report at our Spring Assembly. I tried to pay attention and would have asked for details at the end, but I already had questions to ask. I had to ask if the commemorative first edition was accepted or rejected. I thought it was rejected (which
it was), but the minority voice turned the vote around. So it will be published against the
wishes of my area. But what happened to THE PLAN? Was the whole thing dropped, or was it placed
on the back burner. What happened to the Planner. Did he resign? Was his term completed? Or did
he drop out of sight for a while until a paid position in the structure can be found for him,
maybe as GSO manager? The last two GSO managers were trustees. I don't know how many trustees
have been given jobs in the past. It makes me extremely sad that most A.A. members today have
no idea what my concerns are about. ANONYMOUS

Anonymous
an individual experience?

I read this as part of a post here recently.

“To me, recovery is an individual experience. For example, if we pass a piece of paper and a number two pencil to a room full of people and ask them to draw a picture of what recovery looks like, I guarantee every piece of paper in that room will look completely different.”

This concept might apply if the room full of people were asked what this years parade float should look like but trying to apply it to recovery from alcoholism has been a death sentence for many.

In the Foreword to the First Addition (no you don’t need to buy a first addition, it is included in the fourth)

“We, of Alcoholics Anonymous, are more than one hundred men and women who have recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. To show other alcoholics precisely how we recovered is the main purpose of this book.”

Looks to me like those hundred plus picked up their number two pencil and drew the same picture “precisely how we recovered”. Then you can add Joe H who pointed out that the Big Book’s message starts before page one and you can add me, and my sponsor, and members in by group, and members in other groups and on and on.

Am I saying that it’s my way or the highway? Surprisingly, no. I only recommend AA’s way (as spelled out in its instruction book), I never developed a solution, I use theirs. Are there other ways to recovery? Certainly. Many benefit from spontaneous remission. Many get what they need from their church. The medical community and drug industry are always coming up with new cures, maybe even one that will work someday. If suffering alcoholics reach out to any of them for help, more power to them. If they reach out to AA, it’s my responsibility to give them AA, not what I think they should hear or some committee’s consensus.

Anonymous
re-individual experience

You said, "If they reach out to AA, it’s my responsibility to give them AA" And what exactly is this AA you want to give them? Because AA is not the same for everyone. So we must be careful. As far as I know AA is a diverse Fellowship where members share their experience, strength and hope. There is a suggested pathway to the stars but, not all members find it helpful. Should we kick them out or beat them over the head; belittle their message; secretly hope they relapse to please our egos?
No, we welcome anyone with love and tolerance who has a desire to stop drinking. The wisdom and magic in the rooms is bigger than you or I. Anyone can find the necessary tools they need to stay sober for one day even if the tools they are using are different then mine. Embrace Diversity

Anonymous
individual

The post says "as spelled out in its instruction book"

Anonymous
The Big Book's Purpose

The main purpose of the Big Book was to show and tell
other alcoholics how to recover, and to make lots of money
to support the treatment centers which the government and
insurance companies support today. This was all changed
just before the book went to print.
The Big Book is a story book. It has a simple purpose:
to explain how one hundred men had recovered from a fatal
disease. It explains in detail how that was done. It
worked for them and it might work for you if you care to
try it. We will help in any way we can. Helping others
seems to be the way we stay sober ourselves. We are not
advisors, teachers or preachers. Most of us have developed
enough humility to know that we are sober and alive only
by the grace of God. Pride has no place in our fellowship
of recovering/recovered alcoholics. ANONYMOUS

Anonymous
RE: The Big Book's Purpose

Thank you, now let your sponsor know !

Anonymous
RE: RE: The Big Book's Purpose

How could I do that? I do not have a sponsor. I have
never had a "sponsor". I have had several mentors over
the years, but they would never fit today's role of
sponsor. I believe we all come as equals to a place
where we can all recover together. No hierarchy or
patriarchy. That is the climate in which Alcoholics
Anonymous was born, two alcoholics needing each other.
Bill was well aware that he needed another alcoholic
to talk to. He was afraid of going "down the drain". Dr.
Bob needed what Bill had to offer, although he may not have
known what it was, or that he needed it. This ingredient
of humility is what is missing in today's A.A. ANONYMOUS

Anonymous
re purpose

You said, "The Big Book is a story book. It has a simple purpose:to explain how one hundred men had recovered from a fatal disease." In a way this is true, however it leaves out so many important stories such as those of agnostics and atheists that found it not necessary to believe in god to live a sober life. There is a whole history in AA not being represented and their stories are not being told by the big book. The "We Agnostics" chapter means well but it only describes those who found god in the end. To me, this is an unfair and it truly discredits and insults the valuable work done by so many agnostics and atheists who throughout the years helped opened up the rooms and kept it from becoming like the Oxford Group. Are agnostics and atheists 2nd class members?

Anonymous
re purpose

No that is not what I said. Read my post again or read it from your Big Book to be sure I got it right.

You must have come across some real losers to categorize anybody who has taken step two as someone blocking the entry to anyone who hasn't yet. A lot of us don't fit that mold.

"Are agnostics and atheists 2nd class members?"
Absolutely not. Newcomers are the lifeblood of AA.

Anonymous
rere-purpose

You said, "Absolutely not. Newcomers are the lifeblood of AA." Thanks for your honestly, it gets better one day at a time. Keep coming back and your life will change as well as your attitude. We all have one in our early days. Even though you are new, your message can save the person who just walked through the door. Don't worry about being in early recovery. Most of us come to AA to learn how to not pick up the first drink. The strange and joyful journey in recovery is once you reach the top your realize someone else has been there and you are actually on the bottom and you have to keep striving for the top again. Thanks for you message of hope. Johnnie T.

Anonymous
Johnnie, You might try some

Johnnie,
You might try some Windex on your crystal ball.

DOS 11/79

Anonymous
RE-Johnnie DOS 11/79

You answered my question. 11/79 represents quantity not quality. Thank you. Keep Coming Back.

Anonymous
2nd class

The Big Book is just an honest story of how the first
members recovered. There were at least two of the
early members who were agnostic or atheistic. Hank P
and Jimmy B. Bill wrote on page 164 that our book would
be suggestive only. The steps themselves are but suggestions. What most A.A. members lack is a proper
understanding of "suggestion". A suggestion is not telling
someone what they must do. I share what I did, what I
do and what happened to me. Sounds a bit self-centered,
but that is the IDEA offered to Bill W. by Dr. Silkworth
in the spring of 1935. A suggestion is just to share
an idea with someone for their consideration.
By making the BB suggestive, and the steps suggestions,
sobriety and recovery is offered to everyone.
There is a problem and it is a severe one. Agnostics
and atheistic alcoholics are pushed away, before they
get a chance at salvation. I believe that we can hold
on to almost all of them, if we stop pushing God and
the steps down their throats. Stop reading "How It Works".
That was our worst blunder ever. It led us down the
path to becoming a religion. I know A.A. is not a named
religion, but it has become a religion for many of us.
Too many! Please find and read the Grapevine article
"Without a Higher Power" from about three years ago.
Another article asked if we need an overhaul of our
fellowship. A loud YES. My past delegate told me to
"Keep sounding the alarm, maybe we can turn this ship
around." The members who are left in A.A. today are
the ones who steered us down the wrong path. I know,
because I was one of them. I regret that I was so
ignorant, misinformed, and uninformed. ANONYMOUS

Anonymous
re big book's purpose

How can you say "We are not advisors, teachers or preachers." then teach, preach, and advise about pride and humility? sounds like the pot calling the kettle black only the pot is still potted!

Anonymous
re-individual experience

If there was only one way of getting sober than there would only be one person sober in AA. I don't know of anyone in my home group and in all the groups in the area that are clones of each other. Not everyone in AA works the steps; not everyone in AA reads the Big Book; not everyone in AA believes in God. Recovery and sobriety are not cookie cutter experiences. Even if you gave a paint-by numbers painting to everyone, the result would still be different. My recovery is very different than yours apparently. Does this mean you are more sober than me, better than me? I've been doing quite well since 1983, how about you? Never said one prayer to boot! Everyone I sponsor has a different style of recovery. Some like step-meetings, agnostics meetings, speaker meetings, Big book Meetings, LGBT meetings etc. I share my experience strength and hope, not my sponsors, not Bill W's and not yours.

gvrnh1
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I need a sponsor

I have almost 9 months sober now and haven't even made it past step 3, not because I am not willing and open and ready but because I am having an issue selecting the right sponsor. I had a temporary sponsor who completely lost her mind after 3 years of sobriety and believe she is using other substances and haven't seen her in 6 months so I selected a new sponsor who has just celebrated 2 years fresh out of finishing her 12 steps for the first time, keeps cancelling on our meetings to work on my steps, also when we did have a concrete date and time, planned a lunch together to do this, she had invited others along and was discussing her issues going on with her (boys and work) and completely disregarding what our plans were. also she doesn't go to meetings regularly and I don't even think she is doing any service work at this time. I do have to say that I don't call her as much as I should and when I do it is about 50/50 chance we get in touch. I have had to contact other women in the program to reach out for help more than I have from her to this point. I did go to a meeting last night and go figure...the topic was sponsorship (just what I was struggling with) and I have came to the decision that I need to ask someone else with more time and dedication for me. what do you think, am I wrong? I keep going back and forth on this because she has never sponsored anyone before and her relationship with her sponsor is not something I desire but I love her to death, she is a wonderful person, just not something I need for my sobriety or am I just trying to find the differences and excuses to jump to another sponsor? please help

Anonymous
Sponsor

You need to keep it simple. Just pick someone. Say it's temporary, and if it doesn't work out, get somebody else. It's dangerous to not have a sponsor. You are over-thinking it.

gvrnh1
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Sponsor

your totally right, I am over-thinking it. :)

Anonymous
Sponsor

I have had quite a few sponsors because I was dealing with other post-stress issues at the time. It taught me a good lesson that I feel guilty about now.AA is about getting over alcohol.Right now I have 9 years and my HP had been a pretty concrete Group of Drunks,Good Orderly Direction etc.I was so scared of my higher power being my former religion until I asked and was answered that it could be anything.I switched it and told my home group and they said fine.This switching it became a week or a month long and it finally hit me that what I was looking for was not a superhuman strength religion,per say,but,as I see it now,I pray to "spirit",as in "spiritual" and Mobius Strip as my Center that tells me that I can never graduate.That is one of "my clarity of thought"
ideations.I just breath a sigh of relief and gratitude that the drunks(BB) and the 12x12 was so extraordinarily powerful in itself.AE

Anonymous
re: finding a sponsor

It was suggested that I find someone with whom I felt I could be totally honest, which for me translated to someone who worked the AA principles outside in the real world, who was as mindful of the traditions as of the steps. I was not looking for someone who expected me to call every day, or who would call me, but someone who would be there when I needed them. If the person you selected is not responsive, it might benefit you to discuss your thoughts on sponsorship with her, what it means for both of you, and determine whether you are compatible. I would definitely read the AA pamphlet on sponsorship, and perhaps suggest that your sponsor do likewise, before you discuss. If you are on different pages, you will likely agree you need to find a new sponsor.

gvrnh1
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Re: finding a sponsor

Thank you this helps alot

Anonymous
re sponsor

Perhaps making yourself noticed as someone in need of a sponsor would be helpful. Appearing as someone who deserves a good sponsor would be infinitely helpful. Everybody who walks in the door has a boatload of problems. A few have a boatload of problems and are willing to take some action to get rid of them. Potential sponsors notice them because they ask good questions; they have a 12 X 12 and a Big
Book and are reading them and asking questions about them in the meeting, in the “meeting before the meeting” and the “meeting after the meeting”. Throw in asking about the pamphlet “Q and A about Sponsorship” and you’ve painted a picture of yourself as someone who may be sponsor-able.

gvrnh1
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re sponsor

I have been only focusing on one meeting so I will branch out and go to other meetings and meet more people and just put it out there. thank you

Anonymous
re I need

“I have almost 9 months sober now and haven't even made it past step 3, not because I am not willing and open and ready but because I am having an issue selecting the right sponsor”

On my fourth step I was led to categorize my behavior into various character defects. Such as:

I claimed to have made a decision (step 3) do something and haven’t. Why? Afraid to look at myself – Fear, Irrational fear.

I saw others get on with steps four and five but not me. I’m a special case; I don’t need it –false pride.

Have I gotten a notebook and a box of pencils and wrote Step 4 at the top of page one? No, I’m not willing; I’m lying even saying I am. -dishonesty

I can’t do anything (like read the instructions in the Big Book and 12 & 12) because of other people won’t behave correctly (the way I say they should). – Blaming, superior, rationalizing.

One innocent sentence, 5 traits keeping me from “a new freedom and a new happiness…serenity…peace…”

Perhaps I need to look further into this me that I thought I knew so well. You think?

gvrnh1
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re i need

do you know me? :) I have went through this same thing and wrote everything out just like this now I just have to share it with someone. (step 5)

Anonymous
in to action with step 4

You forgot procrastination or as Bill called it sloth in five syllables.

If I were the original poster I think I would be working on a big case of self righteous anger right now if they were troubled with being oversensitive like me. They probably aren't though and will quickly thank us taking the time to help. That is unless they are ungrateful. Hope not or that could raise the count to eight. Possibly a new world record.

To re I Need:
Welcome to AA, you sound like one of us.

Anonymous
Re: I need a sponsor

Okay, I am going to go out on a limb here and reply. Please understand that I am speaking completely from my experience and, also, that I am part of a sponsorship family that hears this a lot. The experience you described is why we have gone out of our way to be sure people we sponsor are prepared for doing the same some day. Anyway....

I am one of those self-proclaimed former agnostics/athiests who found the god of my understanding in this program. I apologize if what I am going to write here sounds like god-thumping. But I guess it is! The first time I experienced god was when I first heard the voice of the man who would eventually become my sponsor. Something deep inside me, which I soon learned to trust as the voice of my higher power, told me I needed to get to know this person because he would change my life. That turned out to be an understatement.

The reason I relate this is that, like most things in AA and our individual programs, I have found I need to practice turning my will and my life over to the CARE of god on a continual basis. In choosing a sponsor, I believe this to be imperative. I don't know you, other than what I read of what you wrote, but I would suggest that we, as alcoholics, do not CHOOSE a sponsor. We pray, listen and keep our eyes and ears open until the god of our understanding puts that person squarely in our path., the person s/he has chosen FOR us.

Again, in my experience, the man who is now my sponsor turned out to be the one person who could help me with the "impossible" tasks we call the second and third steps. His understanding of god and of turning it over were exactly what I needed to keep from repeating my previous 2-3 years of failed attempts at a program of recovery. My sponsor does not have years of sobriety. To the contrary he is just coming up on six months. But he has a sponsor who is one of those seasoned veterans who takes a no-nonsense approach to the steps and never apologizes for that. My sponsor has experienced the miracles and promises of recovery in a very real and personal way, and is constantly telling me and showing me just how real they are.

I am coming up on 60 days of sobriety. Because of my sponsor, my home group and most of all because of the absolute grace of the god of my understanding, I am not only not drinking, but I have found that I am completely relieved of the desire to drink. For some reason, my higher power felt that I needed that miracle. But it all started with being led to my sponsor. Without him and his ability to be led by inspiration I truly believe I would still be out there drinking and hating my life.

One other thing you said that I zeroed in upon. You said you don't call your current sponsor as often as you should. Even though I am short of 60 days in sobriety and sanity, I was recently asked to be a sponsor. Again, before he asked, I knew he was going to ask, because that now familiar voice inside my head prepared me. So when he did there was only one answer I could give.

As my sponsor did with me, I asked my sponsee to do a few things every day. One of those things is to call me, or text me, every day. I also passed on to him that this relationship he asked us to enter into requires absolute commitment not only from me to him, but from him to me. I can do this with my sponsor because I trust him absolutely and because my love for him is just as strong as his for me. I'm not sure how the relationship would work, otherwise.

So, that is my long, windy way of saying.... trust the god of your understanding. S/he has someone already prepared to help us in our journey. Our task is not to choose that person, or to seek out the longest sober or most intelligent sounding or most comfortable person, but rather to open our hearts and minds to the promptings that will lead us to them.

Sorry if I am preaching....... I wish you the best, in your search and your sobriety. Yes, there are lots of people in AA who are just talking the talk and it sounds like you have met a few of those. But, I promise you that there is someone out there for you who can teach you how to walk the walk just as they do. May you find her soon.

gvrnh1
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Letting Go and Letting God

like I posted above, I will start going to more meetings and not worry so much about having a home group or a sponsor and just let my HP my God do his work.

The whole problem is that everyone is always talking about "get a sponsor" so I became more focused on that rather than just working the steps and talking to someone I trust (which is hard for me because I am a women and don't trust other women) but I am working on it and praying about it.

thank you

Anonymous
Letting Go

Great. Successful people of all kinds have used a multifaceted attack on problems. Different meetings, different people (have you read the women's stories in the Big Book).

Hard to trust other women? We used to trust alcohol. How much worse can we do than that?

Anonymous
Re: I need a sponsor

Re: I need a sponsor
I find it ironic people looking foe an outside sponsor when God put a whole fellowship in front of you and people are sober now trying to find ways to isolate from the groups God put them in, but don’t worry it seems they have found you instead !!!

gvrnh1
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isolate

I am really good at isolating and finding the differences instead of the similarities. but now that I am aware of that pitfall and distancing myself from meetings and people are the wrong steps to be taking I can work harder to not stay on the right path.

Progress not perfection is what I have to tell myself A LOT. :)

Anonymous
Is it a new religion?

On 5/18/2013 someone posted on this thread Bill’s warning about the danger of AA becoming some sort of new religion. The author tries to make it sound as it was so important that he wrote about it three times. Looks to me he said it once during a speech when AA was twenty years old and he was turning over control to an elected board. In a Grapevine article in 1963 he suggested re-reading it and Language of the Heart is simply a compilation of Bill W’s Grapevine writings. In total, that’s once. I suppose a person could multiply it times the number of copies in print but I don’t. It’s once. The poster goes on to say that AA has become some kind of religion. I don’t know what the mean by that and it is certainly not my experience.
The actual text supposedly referred to in Alcoholics Anonymous Comes of Age is in two parts. First on the bottom of p 231, “As a society we must never be so vain as to suppose that we have been the authors and inventors of a new religion. We will humbly reflect that each of AA’s principles, every one of them, have been borrowed from ancient sources.” The second is in the footnote on 232, “…Nothing, however, could be so unfortunate for AA’s future as to attempt to incorporate any of our personal theological views into AA’s teachings, or tradition…”
Taken together Bills saying AA is not a new religion and it is not limited by his or Dr Bob’s personal denominational beliefs. By the time the chapter concludes two pages later Bill has made reference to God eight more times. He just includes God mater-of-factly, he doesn’t explain or justify. For Bill Wilson belief in God in AA is simply a given. Something calling itself AA that doesn’t include God is outside of his mindset. If someone thinks they can develop some kind of secular version of AA, I don’t see them getting any justification or encouragement from AA founders because it simply isn’t there.
If you don’t want hear it from AA founders then take it from the New York Court of Appeals:

“..the religious-oriented practices and precepts of Alcoholics Anonymous …”

“…the state has exercised coercive power to advance religion by denying benefits … to atheist and agnostic inmates who object and refuse to participate in religious activity (AA)."

AA is is about God ladies and gentleman. In the words of the Eagle’s Don Henley and Glen Fry “Get over it”.

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AA Religion

There is no doubt that AA is thoroughly infused with "God" or the more digestible, "Higher Power". There is no doubt that AA and its founders sprouted in rich Christian soil. The entire purpose of the Big Book is to help the alcoholic "find a Power greater than yourself which will solve your problem."

People who have a problem with God, religion or spirituality are probably going to have a problem with AA. Sorry, it IS a spiritual program. There's no getting around that. But, there are HUGE outs, if you will, for folks who are allergic to God & religion.

Bill, Bob & the early members realized that a traditional Christian or God door would be too constricting for alcoholics living at the bottom of life's sewer. So they opened the door as wide as they could by including the concept of a "Higher Power" and allowing each individual to define that term as they wish. A HP could be your sponsor, the group, the principles of the program, Jesus, God, Allah, the universe or nothingness. Whatever. All AA asks are 3 simple things:
Honesty - "This God stuff is bullshit" - OK, got that part.
Open Mindedness - "I have to admit, my way ain't gettin it done".
Willingness - "Maybe I'll take a look at how you folks are staying sober".

But, you don't even need to do HOW if you don't want. In fact, you don't have to do anything in AA. Nothing. AA is not about you. It's about me being there for you. That's how I stay sober. How you stay sober is your business.

If AA is a religion it is a very strange one. We have no leaders. We don't own anything. You can believe whatever you want...or nothing. You don't have to do anything to be a member except have a desire to not drink. WE have no dues or fees. We have no opinion on outside issues. The doorway of AA may still be too restrictive for some. And that's ok. AA is not for everyone.

Anonymous
RE: AA Religion

Religion is good – Religious I question ?
I am glad A.A. is a spiritual program not a religious one administered by someone, Glad God is everything or nothing and glad I was not diverted by the religious outside sponsorship system inside A.A's 164 pages of the program in the Big book,
Today I have to many friends in A.A to associate with the diverters. Thank you God

Anonymous
Lunchbunch

Alcoholics Anonymous IS a spiritual fellowship. No
apology. Spiritual principles are our guide. But to
become a member of A.A. the only thing required of the
alcoholic approaching us is the desire to get well. Bill
wrote that in one of the "Three Talks to Medical Societies."
No one is required to believe in God to get sober or to
join us in A.A. We really need to become less restrictive
and more inclusive. If we can be attractive enough to keep
them coming, something of great moment is likely to occur.
If we push them away with religion their chances are practically nil. Our spiritual goals are to become more honest, gain in purity, become less selfish and more loving. ANONYMOUS

Anonymous
re- Is AA a new

You said, “If someone thinks they can develop some kind of secular version of AA….” This is not what I gather from reading several of the posts. Even though I have a faith, in fairness to the more secular members I notice there can be at times a hostile force towards them not by AA itself but by individual members who feel they are more important than AA. I think if the more secular members were accepted as equal members than the problem would disappear. AA is made up of both secular and religious ideas so we can come together and solve our common problem. Yes, it’s true, the “Big Book Program” is spiritual in nature and some find it religious but, the “Fellowship” is secular as written by the Preamble. Where is it written, “The only requirement for membership is a desire to be religious or secular?” Therefore tossing about this issue doesn’t make any sense but hurts AA as a whole. Bill and Bob have hugs waiting for anyone who has a desire to stop drinking. We need to display a little love and tolerance and mind our own side of the street. People who engage in defending ideologies tend to be defending their egos. I personally am a devout Catholic however I separate my religious faith when I enter the rooms. But, even as a Catholic I find certain hostilities from members who claim to be "spiritual" Some members in my group think I am an atheist because I never talk about God, which perhaps is a wonderful compliment in the strangest way. Let’s focus on the newcomer and learn to love the person whose recovery is different than ours. The newcomer can do without the “King of the Hill” mentality because they are coming from a place that is nothing but that. The hope AA offers is a loving fellowship not a room full of egomaniacs and fanatics defending positions that do not need to be defended. As the old saying goes, “When we create an enemy, we become the enemy."

dmobley
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It may be an old saying but I

It may be an old saying but I am 68 and I never heard it before---I like it a lot

Anonymous
Why is Jesus's name like a bad word around A.A.

Please tell me why you use the names like, Dr. Bob and Bill W in the today's Quotes for Today, when their teacher was Jesus. I guess what I really want to know is why is Jesus's name like a bad word around A.A.
For me He has all the answers. Is it because there might be a New Comer in the room and we don't want to scare him or her away, I don't think so, or else we wouldn't mention God. If you never read about what Jesus said ? Please check it out for your self and please don't listen to close mined people, sorry I mean don't take to heart what some people say about Jesus

Charlie B
Peterborough, ON.

Patsyd1
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Charlie B, this is why "God as we understand Him"

Charlie, when Bill W. was addressing the National Clergy on Alcoholism, he shared the following:

"National Clergy Conference On Alcoholism
The "Blue Book" Vol.12, 179-210, 1960
Alcoholics Anonymous
Bill W.
Co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous
Reverend Raymond J.H. Kennedy, S.J., Chairman

"God as we understand Him" this expression having been coined, I think, by one of our former atheist members. This was indeed a ten-strike. That one has since enabled thousands to join AA who would have otherwise gone away. It enabled people of fine religious training and those of none at all to associate freely and to work together. It made one’s religion the business of the A.A. member himself and not that of this society."

Anonymous
re Jesus

Jesus
Good question.
I think people receive the word of God differently. When I was a little kid, I imagine others were getting comfort and hope from the message in the Methodist church I grew up in. What I felt was shame and guilt for not living up to perfection. Something wrong with my receiver. Think it’s called the ‘ism” in alcoholism.

Since I have gotten sober, I have studied a variety of religious ideas and frankly, the more I look at Christianity the further I am drawn away. I have friends and family that I dearly love that are deeply religious Christian people. I respect them. I can clearly see that they have a quite different relationship with the Divinity than I do. The ones that I know that are truly committed and happy with it don’t see it as THE ONLY WAY. They respect others and their different relationship with God.

I try to keep in mind that every single member of Alcoholics Anonymous is there because of his or her misbehavior, not assets and from my experience many can do little more stop consuming alcohol. Many have had religion crammed down their throats. Members of your religion have a long history of being the target of intolerance, it’s part of the package.

I am perfectly comfortable with any AA speaking briefly, about their commitment to Christ or any other idea of a Higher Power. If it goes beyond that I am pushed away by it. Wear the label openly; show the world how well it works by your actions. If others aren’t drawn to it, they are hearing another one of God’s voices. Trust that God knows what he is doing and respect that and them.

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