Heard At Meetings
As far as the lightbulb goes let the higher power recharge it
"All the world's a stage and all the men and women merely players,
They have their exits and their entrances,
and one man in his life plays many parts!
(Shakespeare's As you like it.)
During my alcoholic drinking you should have see me practising controlled drinking!!!
The following announcement pinned on the door of a room in a holiday resort.
"FRIENDS OF BILL WILSON WELCOME at 8 pm."
A young lady read the notice, entered. She was the first to arrive at the meeting, so she sat down and waited.
Soon a young man arrived, shook her hand. They introduced them selves to each other,sat down and began to talk.
At 8 pm. the young man said, "O.K. Lets start the meeting!" The young lady asked, "What meeting?" He replied, "The AA meeting!" She said, "I never drank in my life, I'm not an alcoholic. But the notice said 'Friends of Bill Wilson welcome at 8 pm. I am curious so I decided to enter and meet this Bill Wilson!"
I was on vacation early in sobriety driving down the US Pacific Coast and hit a meeting at a nice facility right next to the ocean. I knew no one in the room and was sitting quietly at a table watching the room fill with a laughing, animated crowd. Suddenly, I heard yelling erupt at a table next to me. An angry guy was standing over another guy shaking his fist and shouting at him. A couple of AA members got between the two and escorted the yeller to the door. As they opened the door and ushered the yeller out you could have heard a pin drop. All of the laughter and chatter evaporated as we watched a rare occurrence in AA; a member being tossed out of a meeting. One of the bouncers suddenly stopped, returned to the door, opened it and yelled, "Keep coming back!". The roar of laughter that erupted could have been heard across the ocean in Japan. The chatter and light heartedness returned and we had a wonderful meeting.
After the meeting, I noticed several men outside the facility talking with the yeller who seemed to have calmed down. It felt good to be a member of a society that had the ability to handle an explosive situation in such a humorous, fair and graceful manner.
nice one.. lol..
don h. nashville
LOL!!! Great one! Thanks for sharing.
The Wife asked, "Where did all these empty whiskey bottles come from?" The husband replied, "Don't look at me, I didn't bring home any empty whiskey bottles!" Alfred G.
The Wife asked, "Where did all these empty whiskey bottles come from?" The husband replied, "Don't look at me, I didn't bring home any empty whiskey bottles!"
Take what you need and leave the rest
"Take what you want and leave the rest!" I practised that axiom all my life!!!
If I did not like a job I LEFT IT AND DID NOT DO IT!!!
The above phrase is a perfect description of my drinking!
When asked what my favourite drink was,
I replied in one word. MORE!!!
" I am suffering from an acute form of inverse paranoia!!!
I think my family and friends are holding secret meetings, planning ways to make me happy!"
GRATITUDE CHANGES YOUR ATTITUDE. YOU CAN'T BE HATEFUL, IF YOU ARE GRATEFUL.
Most of my INSIGHTS are just HINDSIGHTS!
The more I know about AA and the less I do about it, THE MORE I SUFFER!!!
We don't get well in AA, WE GET BETTER!
Of course I don's always get what I want!!! Instead I get what I need!!!
7 days without a meeting makes a weak.
7 days without a meeting makes ONE weak.
:) 7 days without a meeting makes ONE weak!
Should be, "makes ONE weak!" lol
" I was never a fan of reality!"
Newcomer:"How do I know that I drink too much?"
Oldtimer;" Maybe, by asking that very question!"
No matter what I am experiencing now, a drink of alcohol cannot improve on it!!!
Gratitude chances your attitude.
You can't be grateful, if you are grateful.
I can choose to live one day at a time or one day at a whine...
At a meeting today a member shared that as he was driving, he noticed a slogan in the back window of the card ahead of him. "I AM UNABLE TO LAUGH AT MYSELF!" Some wit responded in writing and stated, "I can help here. I can laugh at you!!!
Another comment had this gem, A member saw the follwing remark on the wall in his local barber shop. "Everyday, I make a decisin to like one person. Today is not your day! And it is not looking too good for you tomorrow either!"
He said, " If I can laugh at myself I can have a life of free, endless entertainment!!!
Charlie Chaplain entered a Charlie Chaplain look alike competition.
HE CAME THIRD!!!
No matter what I am experiencing now, one drink of alcohol does not IMPROVE IT!!!
Gratitude changes your attitude!
You can't be grateful, if you are hateful!
I used to say "I COULDN'T HELP MYSELF"
Often the truth was that I DIDN'T HELP MYSELF!!!"
So two days ago I was trying to find a meeting, saw a 5:30pm listed but when I got there no one was around. So I called my good friend and he talked me through another sober night. He also told me "Hey those doors were unlocked, next time just stop for a few minutes, grab a big book, read a story or two and see what happens. So yesterday I did just that, none was there so I grabbed a big book and sat down to read. Not five minutes had passed when a car pulled up. Older gentleman walked up to me and said "looks like it's just us, I'm chuck and i have been sober 32 years." I replied" I'm mike and I've been sober for 3 days" we sat and talked for an hour or so. It was just amazing to me how that worked. I don't think there was anything random about that encounter. Keep your eyes peeled for those small miracles.
it is always true that we just share experience strength and hope with one another Some of those encounters are more benefit to me since I need to be reminded what is like in very early sobriety.
I know I have lost a lot of trust with my wife from my drinking and drugging, but what I don't understand is that she throws this up to me constantly. It is really a big hit in the heart for me. I really feel like she trust me with nothing, not just the disease I have, and it really makes me lose a lot of faith in myself. I have even starting taking depression meds. I had a wreck from alcohol, that almost took my life, and now I am sitting here with a broke neck asking for some kind of input with somebody with some length of sobriety. My sobriety date is June 1, 2013, and this is my dozen or so time battleing this drink, and this time I am lucky to be here. Look I actually need a friend, before I lose my mind. I have a sponsor, but sometimes that's just not enough.
Hi my name is Bill and I am an alcoholic.My sobriety date is Feb 19th 2010.work the steps all of them.Does your wife attend alanon meetings?Don't give up,We have caused a lot of wreckage but we can recover through working the steps.Your wife is scared and hurt and needs help,alanon can help her.become involved in service work and help other alcoholics by sharing your story.one of the most corroding threads to our existence is fear.Do not become a victim of self pity get out and help others,your wife will see a change in your behavior and just maybe she will stop belittling you.I will pray for you and your wife,your friend Bill
Trust is one of the many broken things from our past many alcoholics bring here. Through working the steps as described in the Big Book of AA and developing a reliance on a higher power you can recover from the hopeless malady of mind and spirit brought on by alcoholism and begin to repair the damage of the past. If your an alcoholic like me, then take it one day at a time (or minute as the case may be). Find a good sponsor who will walk you through the steps. Through working the steps you will develop an understanding and reliance on power greater than yourself. As it states in the Big Book. the promises, they will materialize if we work for them.
You need god! He'll work miracles through you that nobody else can;-)
Congratulations on your sobriety date. It's hard to break the thinking cycle. The best way to do that is to DO something else. Start walking. Bend over and pet a dog or pick up a wrapper. Those precious seconds will make you forget your problems (before they all flood back). Those seconds will get longer but start small. Start today. Start now. (...like right now).
i'm in the same boat . i've been in a wheelchair 12 years now . she doesn't even trust me to go to a meeting by myself !
"Alcoholism can wipe the smile from the face of a child!"
"At my first AA meeting, I did noy know whether I was animal, plant or mineral!"
"I always wanted to be somebody. I guess I shuold have been more partciular!"
An alcoholic on a vacation send a postcard greeting to her mother, "I am having a lovely time. I wish that I was here!"
My friend was sober for many years in AA. He had a serious car crash. He escaped with a few scratches but the car was a wreck. He had a miraculous escape, but his brain was affected.
He worked in a nearby hospital for mentally handicapped adults and children.
Sometimes he left the hospital and went to pray in a nearby church.
One day he told me,"Do you know what I thought while praying in the church?
I replied, "No. Tell me what you were thinking about in the church."
He answered, " I could see that AVOIDANCE was DANCING IN A VOID!!!"
Cut her some slack, as you said, she has no trust in you and why should she. Since you have a broken neck, she is or has probably had to take care of you and may be bitter about that as well. You need to let time take time. Ask your sponsor if he will bring a meeting to your home if you cannot get out. Get a list of AA men's phone numbers and call, call, call. You can have a mini meeting on the phone and us AA er's are usually more than willing to come to a home for a one on one, or better yet a two on one. Read your Big Book, "To the Wives" and "The Family Afterward"
It will get better if you work the steps and the program.
Hi: I have found that trust is something that is earned and I am sure you will earn it if you hang in there. One day at a time. A sober friend in NY State. Hugs.
trust will come..dont drink and go to lots of meetings...
trust will come..dont drink and go to lots of meetings...
I sympathise with your need for a friend to talk to ,and to understand what you are going through. It will take a while for your wife to come around as she has been burned before.give time time,know that the best ears and support will come from other people in the program who have shared the same things you are going thru.you are doing the right thing by sharing on this site.it will be your sounding board and we will be the friend you are missing for now.
Very good advice here!
I agree with Trust.friendship and lonliness comments It's nice to read direct and encouraging advice, When looking for a AA meeting look for one with this kind of a tone!
Accountabilitie yet supportive. Keep coming back it works when we work it.
Here is a wonderful Irish saying!
"When all is said and done, there is more said than done.
And just because a thing is easy said, it is not easy done!!!"
Read your post carefully and see if you haven't answered your own question.
"My sobriety date is June 1, 2013, and this is my dozen or so time battleing this drink,"
There's an old saying, 'fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.'
I'll go out on a limb here and guess that each of those dozen or so times you promised something like, "This time I mean it," or "I'll never do it again." How anxious would you be to trust someone who has made a habit of breaking promises?
"I have a sponsor, but sometimes that's just not enough."
That's never enough. You make no mention at all of the twelve steps. Today is my AA birthday, my sobriety date is July 25, 1971. I did not reach this milestone by turning my will and my life over to a sponsor or by making a lot of meetings. I did it by following a suggestion given me when I had three and a half months and was in an area with no meetings; Use my Big Book and a Higher Power. It worked then, it worked while I was an Internationalist and it's working now.
Give it a try, and good luck.
Thanks for a very honest share. Well done.
You asked for someone with time. My time in AA...more importantly...in Recovery is 26 yrs by the Grace of God. Here I go..I will talk to you as I would as if you were my sponsee. Our disease of alcoholism(drugs...same..thinking processes), attracts folk with similar thinking and behaviors-even if they don't drink. Women (and I am one), are prone to pointing fingers and laying blame. Men do as well, but not as much as women. Trust is very hard to earn once it is broken..but it can be ganined through consistency. I speak from experience in my own life. There is a process in learning how to live our lives in recovery and the process involves getting a sponsor whom you respect for the recovery behavior, and then working the 12 Steps. It is through this process that we begin to understand our disease and how it affects others. It is not easy to be sober and trying to live in Recovery when you are constantly being bombarded by negativity. The caution I would give is that others who have known you as a drug/druggie are used to a specific groups of negative behaviors from you. They learn how to deal with themselves and you and the world from that perspective...you being a drunk/druggie. When you take steps to get clean and live in recovery..it can be threatening to others who do not know what to expect from you. They are out of their comfort zone. And most importantly...they cannot control your new behavior...it's about control. Sometimes, I have known the others to directly sabbotage the person trying to stay clean because they just never can get comfortable with a different relationship that they can't predict and control. Also, it is easy for the other person to remain a victim of your bad behaivor and continue to point fingers at you. Your job is to quit whining about the situation that you created and get your butt into more meetings. Find a healthy meeting (healthy being noone hitting on anyone either sexually or for money.) Find a meeting where there is no whining...find a meeting where the folk share experience (very little sharing in this topic), strength and hope. Find a sponsor you can trust...a man...NOT a woman...and get to work on yourself. Change you...do not try to change anyone else. Read some of the Big Book and the 12 steps everyday. If you haven't turned your life over to a Higher Power yet, find a sponsor or someone you trust in AA and have them help you get through Steps 1-3 FAST...the plow into 4-7....then move onto 8-12. Do the steps as fast as you can. Do not delay. Once done...go back and do them again...in more detail and depth. I cannot tell you your wife will change, but I will tell you that I took these steps 26+ years ago and my husband followed me into the rooms of AA and from the wreckage of our past lives...we are committed and still married to each other. My you find your Higher Power, whom I choose to call God and join us on the recovery road.
Thanks for the post. Members like yourself sharing gives me hope. I am in the first year of recovery. Almost 10 months and am facing similar issues with the family trust situation. I am following the steps with my sponser and making changes in myself. The road is long and I will say not always that smooth. But with the grace of God as I understand him and my fellows in AA I so see hope.
Thanks for sharing your experiance.