This month's issue focuses on stories of relapse. Have you experienced relapse as part of your recovery?

Yes, I have relapsed once.
16% (202 votes)
Yes, I have relapsed more than once.
33% (423 votes)
No, I have not relapsed.
52% (671 votes)
Total votes: 1296

step work is the key

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Recovery

My recovery started April 8/1982 at Guest House, Lake Orion Michigan.
No I have no relapsed. Do my best to live one day at the time.
Val
San Antonio, TX

Relapse and God's Grace

Thanks, Grapevine, for the iPoll on relapse. I decided to write today because of an online comment from someone who credited God's grace for sobriety but who also "fears the 12 steps." It got me thinking a bit about relapse, God, and the Steps. I went on to write a really long post at the iPoll page before I realized maybe I could send it to the Grapevine!

Anyway, thanks for the question. Sober since 1/1/92 by the grace of God.

Relapse

I relapsed last week after 75 days for the second time in a row. Do you suggest I tell my home group in a meeting. Did the first time and really don't want to do it again.

Telling the group

I am the fellow that wrote "Many Paths to Recovery" just to let you know a bit of my story.

No you do not have to tell openly to your group especially if you did not get a reprieve from the last time you opened up. However I suggest you find someone, preferrably a sponsor to share it with. Sharing is therapy whether you share on this forum or you share with a sponsor.

Some, and most likely those who have not relapsed would have us do it in front of City Hall at noon hour with a sign hung around our neck.

It is some time said, it is like learning to ride a bike with your father (like a sponsor) we fell a lot and our father did not scoll us for falling. I wanted to stop but my father like my sponsor said I could do it, just kept trying.

Did I suggest that you should have sponsor to keep your bike up while you were trying to peddle???

And some may say that you did not ask God to release the desire of alcohol. God works when we do the peddling - keep going and have some (a few) that you really trust to share with.

Dont beat yourself up over this. Have a sponsor, have a plan as to what course of action, and start peddling. The balancing of the bike will come with God's Grace. We love you, and you deserve to have a sober life.

Write again and let me know how you are doing - I will pray for you and will check back to this forum later to see how you are doing.

Hugh H. London Ontaro

Telling the group

I am the fellow that wrote "Many Paths to Recovery" just to let you know a bit of my story.

No you do not have to tell openly to your group especially if you did not get a reprieve from the last time you opened up. However I suggest you find someone, preferrably a sponsor to share it with. Sharing is therapy whether you share on this forum or you share with a sponsor.

Some, and most likely those who have not relapsed would have us do it in front of City Hall at noon hour with a sign hung around our neck.

It is some time said, it is like learning to ride a bike with your father (like a sponsor) we fell a lot and our father did not scoll us for falling. I wanted to stop but my father like my sponsor said I could do it, just kept trying.

Did I suggest that you should have sponsor to keep your bike up while you were trying to peddle???

And some may say that you did not ask God to release the desire of alcohol. God works when we do the peddling - keep going and have some (a few) that you really trust to share with.

Dont beat yourself up over this. Have a sponsor, have a plan as to what course of action, and start peddling. The balancing of the bike will come with God's Grace. We love you, and you deserve to have a sober life.

Write again and let me know how you are doing - I will pray for you and will check back to this forum later to see how you are doing.

Hugh H. London Ontaro

thanks Hugh

@Hugh - Thanks for your response. It really resonates with me. Having 17 years and recently picked up marijuana, I am honest with my sponsor, my close friend and my therapist. I am still in recovery- nowhere does it say we have to be honest with a group in a Big Book. My sponsor trusts me that MY ultimate authority is my god- whatever the conception of it may be. That does not mean I am not being account able - I am trusting that God is speaking to me through them and that if I do not surrender the marijuana, I am not going to heal.

Big Book

Rigorous honesty